The word “conflict” tends to stir up emotions in corporate America. Few companies want to find themselves in conflict. Most employees will view conflict as a bad thing and something to be avoided at all costs. But some conflict can actually be healthy. The reality is that disagreements do not have to turn into fights. We can keep our differences in check if we have a few basic understandings regarding conflict. Conflict occurs when two or more people with mutually exclusive viewpoints attempt to solve a problem.

Two kinds of Conflict (healthy and unhealthy)

Conflict is unhealthy when it negatively impacts the company or team by hindering or limiting their ability to do productive work.

Conflict is healthy when the opposite occurs. When conflict is viewed and handled appropriately.

We know conflict is unhealthy when:

Conflict is healthy when:

Reactions to conflict

Some individuals believe that conflict is always wrong. The mindset is that people in a copmany should be in agreement and live in harmony. They become nervous when team members express differences of opinion. They “lovingly” try to encourage people into one opinion. The attitude does not acknowledge that legitimate differences can exist among different people.

Some people view any discussion as debate and any issue as a time to win at any cost. These people get their thrills in the competition of the moment. Winning the issue is oftentimes far more important than the issue itself.

Some people do not care much about the outcome of the issues involved. The apathetic spirit comes from several sources including burnout, fatigue, stress, a defeated spirit, or a different set of priorities.

Some people do have a considerable stake in the outcome. These often include the leader, staff, board members, managers, and other directly involved individuals. People often believe that the outcome will affect their reputation and/or their feelings of self-worth. Oftentimes the emotional involvement clouds an individual’s reasoning and judgment surrounding an issue.

Some people become nervous when any disagreement occurs in a company or team because they believe it will divide the team needlessly. These individuals many have vulnerable feelings left from past conflict that was handled in a hurtful way. Whatever the reason, they tend to sweep all controversial issues under the rug and hope they go away. They would rather stay in a bad situation than risk the unknown.

Responses to Conflict

  1. Deny it
  2. Ignore it
  3. Confront it

Sources of friction

Understanding the causes of friction can be of tremendous value.

  1. Stress can trigger friction – minor issues can become major when stress is a factor. Check the pulse of your team before you consider a major issue.
  2. Confusion or ignorance about an issue creates friction – The questions people ask can often seem negative or confrontational. Less confusions exists when leadership provides clear provides clear information about goals, actions, priorities, and proposals
  3. Improper use of power – The top reason for forced terminations of managers involves this question: “Who is going to control this team?” When different parties vie for power, a fight looms on the horizon. Selfish attempts for power and control can lead to chaos in the management ranks.
  4. Change often leads to friction – Companies cannot grow if they do not change. Change will not occur without some conflict. Be alert in times of change because change involves movement, and movement creates friction
  5. Different gifts of team members can create friction – Some  gifts can be perceived as mutually exclusive. Just because one person is awesome at one thing… doesn’t mean they control that functional role.

Solutions to Conflict

Approaches to conflict can create one of three results: win-lose; lose-lose; or win-win.

How the Agile coach works in this is to be a master mediator of conflict… as it arises. Your ability to manage oneself, be objective, and empathetic will be the testament of your character, professionalism, and integrity.

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