YOUR FRIENDS = YOUR FUTURE - You're the average of those around you... Time to Level Up? - 065

It's so important these early formula of years that we didn't want to send our kids to a shitty preschool with lower than average individuals and you might say oh, period on our child show that sound so mean. It's not mean It's an intellectual informed decision based on knowledge and Experience that we don't want to send. Let's be intellectually honest here We don't want to send our kids to a school Where the overall average of those individuals those students those kiddos right? It's going to be low. We don't we don't want to send them to a preschool Which is basically a glorified daycare which is even worse because lower school and elementary school is Basically a glorified daycare in the public school system today I've built many startups most of them a fail so Bitcoin is exactly the Place that I like to be we're gonna

end it right there Isn't there just something really unique and special about funerals and weddings? I mean Besides the obvious right when it comes to funerals and weddings It's just a stark reality It's just a especially funerals funerals are a stark reality of what you what is coming for you? What is coming for me? Like funerals are one of the best ways to just wake the fuck up and realize that your death Absolutely your death is 100% imminent and if you'd like more information on that idea You should probably go all the way back to I think it was like podcasts two or three when I talked about You are going to die and why that's important to plan for But I want to talk about the other side of this not the death side and the funeral side But the new beginning side the

wedding side you see I went to a wedding just last week not too long ago And I will tell you guys This was one of those weddings where I had images of like am I gonna be that guy that stands up when you know the preacher Says you know if If there's anyone or in any disagreement or doesn't believe that these two should be wed Raise your hand or stand up now or forever hold your peace or whatever I mean, I don't think they even do that anymore. They actually they didn't do that They did not do that at this wedding So I didn't even really have the opportunity if I wanted to and to stand up and be like yo I don't know anything This is all in my head guys, but I don't know anything But it just doesn't seem like these two

individuals should get married I mean this was my honest to God like Hearts truth like there were a moment and I even turned over to my wife and I was like Am I gonna be that guy should I be that guy that just tells everyone that's like this is not supposed to be like This already looks like troubled waters. There there are signs here that I'm recognizing and I see maybe everyone else sees it Maybe that's why Maybe that's why the you know the mom of the groom Might be drinking a little bit too much here because she's she's she sees it too and she sees the doom that could be Have you ever been to wedding like that? Have you ever been to a wedding where you just kind of saw the future and you hope that you know and the future is negative

and I see maybe everyone else sees it Maybe that's why Maybe that's why the you know the mom of the groom Might be drinking a little bit too much here because she's she's she sees it too and she sees the doom that could be Have you ever been to wedding like that? Have you ever been to a wedding where you just kind of saw the future and you hope that you know and the future is negative with this couple and You just you just know and you hope you hope you hope to the Lord you hope to Jesus that you're wrong, right? Because you don't really don't want to be that be like I told you so I mean these two knuckleheads are getting married Come on guys. Let's be let's be intellectually honest here It doesn't look like it's gonna last or these two

personalities I can't believe that somehow they got this shit to work Maybe it's just the sexual nature of humanity and these two are just so enthralled and so inflamed with passion that they cannot see outside the box That's a long-winded way of saying that I wanted to talk with you guys about this idea because this is what brought the This wedding where I I saw what I believed to be as a train wreck of suffering Okay, let me just put it that way this wedding to me look like an impending Train wreck of future Suffering for this couple specifically the Namja specifically the guy because I was like bro like you just Okay, hey, I can judge in my own mind. Okay, let me have let me have my own thoughts But I'll tell you guys when I was watching this wedding man There were

a couple times when I was looking at him. I was like bro You just got poned like life poned wife poned like like spouse poned like she is gonna take you all the way down and If your love is what you said in your vows then you sir I salute you because you will go all the way down and you will completely serve this woman in ways that I I Really hope I'm wrong guys I really hope I'm wrong But I wrote a couple yeah, I wrote a couple notes down here guys and this is what I want to talk with you about show me your friends And I'll show you your future Show me your friends and I'll show you your future now I have said this many times in podcasts previously my father used to say something very close So this and this

is a quote that often is given to Dan penia Who is an inspirational speaker motivational speaker helps guys Improve their grind improve their hustle and obviously helps has helped a million helped not millions of people But helped lots of people make millions of dollars with his advice and he's absolutely right That's what I want to talk about today is that Dan pen my father let me just focus on my father because I don't know Dan penia from from Adam But my father was absolutely right when he when he when he told me this idea show me your friends show Peter show me the people that you're hanging out with and I will show you a Visage I will show you a view I will show you a vantage point I will show you a vision of the future that I see and if you have

focus on my father because I don't know Dan penia from from Adam But my father was absolutely right when he when he when he told me this idea show me your friends show Peter show me the people that you're hanging out with and I will show you a Visage I will show you a view I will show you a vantage point I will show you a vision of the future that I see and if you have a father or you have an Elder or someone around you who can plainly see what you cannot You need to take heed Lessed you fall because I will tell you You whoever you hang out with please this is the thrust of the message and I'm gonna go talking about this all today Whoever you hang out with Is what you is where your future will lie is where

your future will be you see? Here's another way of looking at this and I wrote this down You are the average of those you surround yourself with you are the statistical Average that's one of the problems with the crappy public schools of America today Is that you literally if you go to a public school for 12 years through the entire edgimication system you Will in general little you know the whole bell curve the law of averages you start to you end up becoming the average of That class of that class of people it doesn't matter who they are you're just kind of part of that blob you are the average of those you surround yourself and this is something that my wife and I were so Intune with because we had spent so much time in education millions of dollars by the way with all

the master's degrees between us We know we know and this is why we were so so critical and so Specific when it came to the early parts of our kids education when it came to to the the preschool When it came to you know lower school the our decisions were we we we Agonized over these decisions because we are smart enough to know that the first six to seven years of your life are some of the most Formula of years of your life you soak in the good the bad the ugly the beautiful Everything your communication style your behavior stuff some of the habits that you'll pick up kind of the the idiosyncrasies that you get from your mama The idiosyncrasies that you get from your papa Right, it is so important these early formula of years that we didn't want to send our kids

to a shitty preschool with lower than average Individuals and you might say oh, oh, no, so that sounds so mean. It's not mean It's an intellectual informed decision based on knowledge and experience that we don't want to send Let's be intellectually honest here. We don't want to send our kids to a school where the overall average of those individuals Those students those kiddos right? It's going to be low. We don't we don't want to send them to a preschool Which is basically a glorified daycare which is even worse because lower school and elementary school is basically a glorified daycare in the public school system today We didn't want to send our kids to a below average because our kids are not average I mean they would be it would be average if it was they were just got all their genes from me But it's

be low. We don't we don't want to send them to a preschool Which is basically a glorified daycare which is even worse because lower school and elementary school is basically a glorified daycare in the public school system today We didn't want to send our kids to a below average because our kids are not average I mean they would be it would be average if it was they were just got all their genes from me But it's a good thing they got most of their genes from their mama and their mama is beyond average Beyond anything that I could ever stand up against You see we made very very informed decisions very critical very very important decisions when it came to our kids early education Because we knew that in these most formula of years the six seven eight years that they were going to become

the average in many ways About all the people that they hung around now. There's also a thing that we need to remember is that since you show me your friends I'll show you your future You are the average of those who you surround yourself with if you spend a lot of time with your mama And you spend a lot of time with your daddy Like our kids do then you end up becoming the average of those individuals as well So here's a question I wrote down do you have an average family? I've talked about this before another podcast. Did your family fuck you? Did they raise your wrong? Did they screw you up? Did they say the wrong thing at the wrong time during the formula of the years that completely fuck you mentally and Psychologically are your your mental models completely jacked up because

your parents fucked up We've talked about this and I might sound harsh, but let me rehash if you want to go back to that podcast Let me rehash the general idea here If you're fucked up in life today, it's your parents fault. Do you spend more time with your parents or lack of parents for some of you guys out there? Then almost anyone else. Yeah, you became the average of the students of your class over time But I tell you your parents They either fucked you or made you or gave you opportunities to be unfucked based on their fuckery and their Their their their their their their fullery of being a parent for the first time or for a second time or third time Ain't nobody got any script for this Right and so for me I like whenever I think about this idea whenever

I think about this idea of how family could fuck you I feel good. I feel good because I didn't really have that I didn't really have that having having four brothers and sisters a family of seven terms of time I mean didn't have a whole lot of time to do a whole lot of anything except get to school Go to sports and come home and be tired especially when it came to my parents my parents were always running all over the place Trying to figure out how to get all these five kids out of the house Right and so in terms of parental time didn't have a whole lot of that in terms of hanging out time with my younger brothers And sisters didn't really have a lot of that because we were because the age the aged disparity the aged The aged gap between

especially when it came to my parents my parents were always running all over the place Trying to figure out how to get all these five kids out of the house Right and so in terms of parental time didn't have a whole lot of that in terms of hanging out time with my younger brothers And sisters didn't really have a lot of that because we were because the age the aged disparity the aged The aged gap between us was so large that was really nothing there and obviously obviously had my brother Which basically was the only thing that I needed right? I mean talk about competitive talk about wanting to try to one up each other talk talking talk about Show me your friends. I show your future an individual who is never impressed with me Who always believes that I can do better pushing each

other all the way up? I you know I would almost wish and it might sound weird for me to interject this this this non-secret or into this podcast here But I'll tell you if you have twins that is a blessing if you are a parent and you are expecting kids And you're gonna be expecting twins. You should be exuberant You want to know why do you want to know why you should be super excited that you're having twins? The reason is is because almost every not every But almost every twin that I've ever met Almost not every almost. I'd say 9 out of 10 9 out of 10 of the twins that I have met are Ridiculously successful Now you might you might ask oh, why is that so? There's a lot of reasons for that, but I'll tell you I think a really powerful

reason and it's been through my experience of having a twin It's because the twins spend so much time together and It naturally breeds a competitive nature a one-upmanship a oh he did that better this time next time I'm gonna do it better. Oh she she got an a and I only got an a minus while I'm gonna do better this time right it the If the twins are so close together in terms of relationship and play you know in in sports activities in school They end up forming their own friends. Yes, but at the end of the day They're not fighting ever against their friends. They're fighting against each other right and if this is kind of the The the home brew that you got at home with the set of twins. I promise you if you encourage that as a parent You will have

ridiculously successful Kids if their twins and the reason is because they'll want to crush it. They'll want to beat each other It's just part of the of living together and having that competitive nature and having and seeing the results of like dude I'm a more twins here like what this they quote a quote Right, I mean if you could you could do it so can I and so it what it what having twins accelerated the risk taking Accelerated the opportunities for saying oh you did that all I can do that right it opened up the opportunities to say Oh, I didn't know that was possible right because you have a mirror image of someone who did something that you didn't think was possible And once you see it's possible then you say well, well, if it's not only possible then I can do it and

so it what it what having twins accelerated the risk taking Accelerated the opportunities for saying oh you did that all I can do that right it opened up the opportunities to say Oh, I didn't know that was possible right because you have a mirror image of someone who did something that you didn't think was possible And once you see it's possible then you say well, well, if it's not only possible then I can do it and I can do it better You see you are you are the average of those who you're surrounded yourself with show me your friends I'll show you your future I can think of a thousand examples of this, but I'll give you one that I've talked a little bit about before Is there's one time at there's there's this kid at an exotic car show so I brought my Lambo

was a Lambo Yeah, I didn't bring the race car. I brought the Lambo out there and this kid had just he just purchased his first Lamborghini used I mean he's looking like even maybe 22 23 something like that and it was with his homies. He's with his homies, okay? So kid rolls up, you know, ask me talks with me about my car like Dada Dada, it's good. You know, I got this 2000 whatever car Lamborghini and I'm loving it Dada Dada Dada and it's telling me about it, you know Basically how he's on the come up and how he wants to grow and how he wants to grind How he wants to hustle for the next level and I looked at I'm in the in the context made it perfect for me to say this It was terse, but it was true and it might

be the one of the trueest statements that he might ever hear in his period of being in the 20s You see he told me that he was on the come up He's got this new Lambo. He's got his three homies with him and I told him I said hey, you know I think he can ask me a question something to the point effective like you know, what? What do I need to do next? And I looked at him and I looked at his homies and I said look You need to change your scenery You need to change your network. You need to change your friends And he looked at me weird like whoa whoa whoa whoa bro Why you ripping on my friends and the friends are like oh fuck this guy? You know look at this guy all e-goed out with his Lambo talk

telling telling our friend that he can't hang out with us But it was true It was true because I need to tell this kid that he since he's on the come up some of his greatest resistance Some of his greatest resistance some of his biggest haters are gonna be those three chingos those three homies Those three friends that he's hanging out with now because those guys don't have the assertiveness They don't have the initiativeness. They don't have the gumption. They don't have the the the the e-go man They don't have the drive maybe To get to the next level and I told him I said if they don't have the drive They don't have the e-go. They don't have the want they don't have it. They're not the passion Then they're gonna hold you down Because you're on the come up you're moving to another

have the assertiveness They don't have the initiativeness. They don't have the gumption. They don't have the the the the e-go man They don't have the drive maybe To get to the next level and I told him I said if they don't have the drive They don't have the e-go. They don't have the want they don't have it. They're not the passion Then they're gonna hold you down Because you're on the come up you're moving to another level You're moving up It could date these three dudes could be your biggest resistance and you can I bet you can imagine guys The faces on these three homies like do fuck this guy. He's talking shit about us. I'm like Y'all three got lambo's Y'all three on the come up y'all grinding like your friend here because he's telling me stories about where he wants to be And

from what I have the way that you guys are just standing there like like You know poop's on us. Don't you know answer on a log answer on a log You guys don't seem like you're even close mentally to where your friend is you don't even you don't even you don't even You don't even carry yourself in a way that makes that makes it look like you're antsy like you're ready to go Like you're ready to grind you really to support your friend you just hear because your friend brought the lambo for the first time And you're here to see you know that now this new world that your friend has access to which by the way Let's be intellectually honest you got a lambo you have just moved up in the world It might seem it might seem fickle it might seem like you

know very worldly for me to say this but it's true I've been there. I'm there. I know it. It changes your countenance It changes the people around you. It changes those that you're attracted to and the reason it sad as it is is because you're now Vibrating on a different level. You're not on a different level. You got a lambo now people assume things about you and now your People have changed the friends need to change to trust your gut Trust your gut man. I can't tell you how many times I have not trusted my gut and wasted precious precious hours Days with individuals in which I should have never spent time Trust your gut. I wrote this down You know if it's a waste of time before you even get in the car. Can I say that again? You already know that it's a

waste of time for you to hang out with that individual or that person or that group of people Before you even get in the car you knew You knew it you know it you've been there. I've been there How many times and you not trust your gut and you end up spending that time the hour that day a half a day With these knuckleheads who completely wasted your time and at the end of the day. Yeah, you had a couple good chuckles You had a couple good laughs That's not enough Especially if you're on the come up, especially if you need to grow you need to change your scenery You need to change your friends go back to some of my other podcasts talking about about your network About when you're on the rise you need to change your scenery. Who do you want to

your time and at the end of the day. Yeah, you had a couple good chuckles You had a couple good laughs That's not enough Especially if you're on the come up, especially if you need to grow you need to change your scenery You need to change your friends go back to some of my other podcasts talking about about your network About when you're on the rise you need to change your scenery. Who do you want to be? Find those individuals That you want to be like because the homies that you hanging out with right now the guys that you hanging out with that They're not where you want to be You're moving to the next level If you're on the come up trust your gut don't waste time with individuals who are gonna slow you down It might even be better for them in life

for you to let them go Because you you're retarding their growth you slow in their growth because they're hanging on you But you're not the right person to hang on to now because you moved on you matured you've grown Where do you want to be? Who do you want to be you need to find those individuals you need to find those people that you want to be and be With them that's where you need to be spending your time Show me your friends. I'll show you your future You become the average of those that you spend time with don't spend time with lower class individuals And I know this sounds so harsh when I say it coming out of my mouth And only you can judge what a lower class is But if you're moving up if you're grinding if you're coming up to the

next level you got to change You're scenery you got to change your network you got to change the inputs around your life You need to vibrate at a higher level you need to grow to the next level and again Maybe you might need to leave them you might need to leave those friends. It'll be good for them Find out where you want to be on that level physically go there find those individuals of where you want to emulate Who you want to be and I promise you you will think yourself One thing that I wrote down here that I think it's important is sometimes as you transition From one level to the next right from one phase in life to the next you will go through the dull jumps of having no friends You will go through a period in which your current friends thought

you think I think you'll be training them because you're going on to this new thing this new Interest right go back to my podcast talking about the three types of friends if you need more information on this because you might need to let them go anyway Right, but you might go through a period in which you don't have friends because you're on the search for new ones The great thing about the online medium the internet's guys is you can find communities you can find groups of people that have already been where you want to be They already have experience of what what what you want to do And they can help you and they can be your next network do not fear Please do not fear Losing friends please again go back to my podcast on three types of friends if you need more information

The great thing about the online medium the internet's guys is you can find communities you can find groups of people that have already been where you want to be They already have experience of what what what you want to do And they can help you and they can be your next network do not fear Please do not fear Losing friends please again go back to my podcast on three types of friends if you need more information But do not fear losing friends Don't fear it because there's three different types and two of them. It's okay to move on Show me your friends. I will show you your future Consider today who you're hanging out with consider today how you're spending your time with individuals who might might just might not be where you want to be You know that's If you're realizing that Then maybe

it's time Maybe it's time to change your friends Let me know in the comments if you enjoyed this particular message and what you're gonna do who you're gonna share it with me know Extra joining me in this podcast guys we are winding it down here We're gonna move in a lot of the stuff behind the scenes in the near future on yend.io behind scenes group Things you didn't learn in school podcasts, but share the people know and enjoy the day guys