SEEK to UNIFY - PRIDE DIVIDES! - Forgive First, then Discuss | Picking Sides Removes Peace - 055

Because of my pride, not because of what the other individual did, not because of what the situation was, it was because I couldn't let go. I couldn't get past my own pride. And it created division between me and that other individual. And that's why I lost. I lost out in that. I built many startups, most of them are failed. So Bitcoin is exactly the place that I like to be. We're gonna end it right there. So many of you guys know that I am a voracious reader. And I spend a lot of time in the early morning as well as late at night reading and gathering information on what's going on with the world. So that I as an entrepreneur and a startup dude can make informed decisions about what the market is doing. And I read an article and I just just just I

had to write all these notes down. I just had to write all these notes down because it just it came to me like a bolt of lightning and I wanted to share it with you guys. The idea that I want to talk with you guys about is unity, unity and this idea, this small idea of being open to everyone, not showing favoritism or not picking side, being unified as much as possible. Now I know, I know in I know what you might be thinking. You might be thinking, well, in the world today, there is no unity. Yes. That makes a lot of sense if all you are doing is consuming mainstream media. If all you're doing is consuming mainstream media, then you will assume you will create mental models. You will create world views that make you think that the world is at war. The

world is burning. The world is dying. Everyone's hating on guys. It's not the truth. None of that is the truth. You see, the thing I want to talk to you guys about is seeking to be unified, not to divide. There's too much of that in the world. And there's too many people picking sides, picking favorites, being criticized for their favorites, being just torn to shreds because they have some semblance of some side that they associate with. Fuck the sides. Why can't we work together? And so the idea that I want to talk about is seeking to unify, be unified in age, have a worldview of inclusivity, have a worldview where there is no favoritism, have a worldview. I look at my brother, I look at my sister and I say, man, you're my brother, you're my sister. We're in this together. If there's, if you

want to go meta, if there's anything that we should be finding, it should be the dysfunctional system. But even then, I don't even, I don't even know anymore whether that is a worthwhile endeavor to try to fight the system as opposed to just living a quiet and peaceful life. There I say it, on the outskirts of the system. You see humility unites, pride divides. And whenever I turn on mainstream media, whenever I see it in a, in a store, a shop, or, you know, the, the, the airports, mostly is where I mostly watch the mainstream media, all I see is disunity. All I see is pride for people dividing the world. What's, what's the agenda? Why? What's the agenda? Why do you, why does the world want to divide everyone from each other? Whenever we, we get into these things where our pride is dividing

turn on mainstream media, whenever I see it in a, in a store, a shop, or, you know, the, the, the airports, mostly is where I mostly watch the mainstream media, all I see is disunity. All I see is pride for people dividing the world. What's, what's the agenda? Why? What's the agenda? Why do you, why does the world want to divide everyone from each other? Whenever we, we get into these things where our pride is dividing people, what happens? We lose our patients. We lose our juju. We, we get angry. We, we, we, our families, our communities, our nations become divided. No one wins here and everyone burns. When we have these battles, most of them are in the mind. But whenever we have these battles of division, we build walls, we ruin connection, we ruin communication, we ruin intimacy, we ruin teamwork and trust,

we ruin peace and contentment. I desire for you. Maybe you didn't know this listener. If you're listening on iTunes or Google Play, but my goal, one of my goals and one of my hopes for you, listener is that you will live a life of peace, but you will also live a life of intention, a life worth living, having goals and having visions that are worth striving for, maybe even just maybe even dying for. And the only way that you're going to be able to achieve a life of peace or the goals that you want to achieve is having a life or a worldview of unification, seeking to unify, not divide. You see division and I wrote this down division is one of the most insidious tactics. Division is one of the most insidious tactics of the devil. You know why? Because division creates worry and

fear. That's the goal of division. Worry and fear is this not true that our mainstream media propaganda arms today, your major news networks, your major newspapers, your major magazines. That's all magazines, newspapers and TV guys. All three of those are meant to do one thing and they do it so effectively. Well, it's to create division to force you into a side, whether you want to be on a side or not. If you have any particular leaning in any particular way, they will immediately put you on a side. And the problem with being on that side is that there is an enemy, a supposed enemy, some sort of some sort of other team, other group, other people group, other culture, other nation that we have to go. Why? Why do we have to fight that way? You see, when people, please don't miss this. When people

see each other as the enemy, the real enemy. The real enemy has won the Prince of the air, right? This devil of the world has won because we've been deceived. Have we not? We've been deceived thinking that we cannot work together. And we need to fight it out that Godly, I could tell you guys regrets. I have regrets. I hate admitting it, but I have regrets. I wish, you know, I think a lot of people say I live with no regrets. Bullshit. Give me, give, give that brother two pints of beer and a shot of yeager. And I trust me. I bet I can get him talking about a regret that he has had in the past. If you get to thinking about it. And I could tell you regrets. Most of them have to do with business and obviously business and relationships, regrets, regrets

wish, you know, I think a lot of people say I live with no regrets. Bullshit. Give me, give, give that brother two pints of beer and a shot of yeager. And I trust me. I bet I can get him talking about a regret that he has had in the past. If you get to thinking about it. And I could tell you regrets. Most of them have to do with business and obviously business and relationships, regrets, regrets of being deceived, being deceived, that, that, that thinking that we can't work together, that we can't make this right, letting our emotions battle us, let our emotions take over. Now we all know that when you're highly emotional, you make your best decisions, right? There's a great quote that I love to sometimes remember. I don't remember as much as I'd like, but it says, forgive first, discuss second.

If only, if only I had taken my own advice and business dealings of the past, relationships of the past where I wish I had just forgiven first, forgiven first and discussed next. I don't want to be deceived. And I don't want you to be deceived. Your neighbor is not against you. Okay. Your neighbor is not against you. The system is not against you. Those people are not against you. That culture is not against you. That nation is not against you. No one cares about you. If you need a reminder of that, please go back to my podcast. On no one is thinking about you, like literally no one cares about you. And no one is thinking about you. You have no enemies. You don't need to think with a worldview of division. Please instill yourself a worldview of unity. How can we come together to

work together instead of fighting it out? It is in their irrational and irresponsible worldview to have. To think that there are other sides that there's there's there's there's winners and there's losers. It creates anger and what does anger do exceptionally well? It drives division. You know, one of the biggest things that I wrote down, one of the things that I despised the most about a divided nation, a divided worldview is that whenever there's division, it creates an obsession to win. Yeah, I get it. I'm you guys know I'm all about winning personal winning. I'm all about personal winning, growing yourself, making yourself awesome, making your life awesome, making those around you awesome, win, fucking crush it, but not at the expense of others. You see with this type of worldview division, it creates an obsession to win. And the problem is is that we want

to win with it with with no no consideration. To the outcome and the world will burn around us. There has to be a loser here, right? Division is in my opinion, I wrote this down division is the fruit of pride. It's pride that can't let go. It leads to unreasonable demands. Irrational speak. I cannot believe how meant many times I have been in conversations at the executive level in boardrooms in major meetings. I've seen pride rise up and suddenly it's management against management. It's executives against executives. There's some sort of pride there. It's you have to win. And what this what creates is this fruit of pride, this division that is the fruit of pride, it leads to unreasonable demands. It's like a plot of other movies, any movie that you have seen the reason why the bad guy fails. It's because of an unreasonable

level in boardrooms in major meetings. I've seen pride rise up and suddenly it's management against management. It's executives against executives. There's some sort of pride there. It's you have to win. And what this what creates is this fruit of pride, this division that is the fruit of pride, it leads to unreasonable demands. It's like a plot of other movies, any movie that you have seen the reason why the bad guy fails. It's because of an unreasonable demand and a pride that won't let go. This division creates losers all the time and lasting regrets. Have I not talked about that enough previously? There are lasting regrets because of me, because of my pride, not because of what the other individual did, not because of what the what the situation was. It was because I couldn't let go. I couldn't get past my own pride and it

created division between me and that other individual. And that's why I lost. I lost out in that. And so what I want to talk to you guys about today, be men, be women who unite around humility, seek to understand, seek from mutual wins. That's what life should be all about is that you guys heard me say this. I love the whole idea of a rising tide rises all boats, right? If I can help the tide rise that everybody wins, there's no losers here. Unite around humility, seek to understand, seek mutual wins wherever you can. Don't create, don't have a worldview of, of, of, of, of favoritism. I don't know why this, this, this idea keeps creeping into my mind. But it maybe was because of the article used the word of favoritism. Favoritism, godly, I, I despise the idea. I despise the idea of favoritism

and it stems naturally. I know from a lot of cultural nuance. I'm, I'm aging. I'm Korean guys. Koreans have favoritism. Everyone has favoritism, right? And the problem with any type of favoritism, if I can just say this quickly, is that there's, whenever there's any type of favoritism, there's some sort of implicit understanding, there's an implicit idea that one individual, one culture is greater than the other. That's bullshit. That is complete bullshit. Unite around humility. Don't unite around vision. Seek to unify the world. Those around you. You'll live a better life. You'll live in peace. That's like if I could say anything, man, living in peace is one of the greatest things that you can do. Living in peace, people seeing you, you're near, I can't, I just, I wish I lived in better peace. Maybe I need to work on that. So what are the

true enemies here? What are the true enemies of a nation divided? Have a worldview divided? The true enemies are pride, fear, selfishness. And so it's just this little slice of hell on earth when you have pride, fear and selfishness. Forgive first. Forgive first, discuss second unity requires that we try to think the best of one another. I know this is a hard idea, but let me give you an example from my experience in the counseling world. As part of my clinical is to receive my master's degree in counseling. I had to do six months of clinical work being a counselor to people in the world. And I found something very unique, very unique when it came specifically to marriage counseling. And I hope this will be beneficial to you if you are in a relationship or you're, yes, if you're in a relationship or even

you an example from my experience in the counseling world. As part of my clinical is to receive my master's degree in counseling. I had to do six months of clinical work being a counselor to people in the world. And I found something very unique, very unique when it came specifically to marriage counseling. And I hope this will be beneficial to you if you are in a relationship or you're, yes, if you're in a relationship or even thinking about a relationship. One of these the advices that I used to give, I don't give it that much more because no one asked me about marital, marital advice. And that's okay. That's good. You shouldn't ask me for marital advice because I don't really have any. But if I, you were to ask me for any type of marital advice, it would be simply this, assume the best

in your spouse, assume the best in your partner, period, full stop. You see, assuming the best, assuming the best in the other individual immediately puts you in a different state, a different frame of thinking. You're beginning to obviously in for those of you guys, you can see the meta here. It's obviously it's programming yourself. It's programming yourself to think positively about that individual to assume the best in that individual to assume that they might not have all the information. And they might have made a poor decision because of lack of information. They might have said something that was not fully complete or not the full truth about this situation because they can't see it all. Assume the best. Assume that their intentions are the best. If you do that, it covers and I promised you it covers a multitude of sins. I've been married guys

for 10 fucking years. Okay? 10 years and I have 10 plus years and I will tell you and I will tell you that when you give up trying to divide your household, please, for some of you guys, you need to hear this. When you give up trying to divide your household, and what do I mean by that? Knit picking bullshit. Guys, I'm talking to you. Ladies, I'm talking to you. Knit picking is a fucking least leaky faucet. It's a leaky roof. It's fucking despisable. Stop Knit picking at each other. Nobody cares. It doesn't matter in the big scheme of things. Stop Knit picking. Stop looking for opportunities to correct. Stop looking for ways to tell them to show them. Hey, I told you so. Assume the best. It will fundamentally change your relationship. It will fundamentally change your marriage. I promise you because what stems

from that and it stems over time, a discipline to assume the best in your spouse. What happens is you start forgiving. You start loving on their inadequacies. Their failures as a person, their character flaws. You see them for who they truly are. And if I'm, I hope in this by saying this, I hope that over time, you will realize that you are exactly the fucking same. You are flawed. You're fucked up. You got issues. You got idiosyncrasies. You got neurosis. You got issues psychologically. You had you fucked up as a child. Your parents fucked you. Okay. You've self esteem issues. You got you got depressed. The pride you you was just a man. You was just a woman. A hunk of flesh meat. Like everybody else who's trying to struggle through this world. Trust me, there's enough pain in relationships alone to start bringing in

are flawed. You're fucked up. You got issues. You got idiosyncrasies. You got neurosis. You got issues psychologically. You had you fucked up as a child. Your parents fucked you. Okay. You've self esteem issues. You got you got depressed. The pride you you was just a man. You was just a woman. A hunk of flesh meat. Like everybody else who's trying to struggle through this world. Trust me, there's enough pain in relationships alone to start bringing in more division, more nonsense. Lord Jesus, please save us from ourselves. Try to think. Here's the TLTR guys. Try to think the best. Assume the best. Come into the situation. Assuming the best. It'll fundamentally change your attitude. It'll fundamentally change the way that you talk. It'll fundamentally change your behavior patterns and fundamentally change your communication patterns because you will shut the fuck up. You will be patient. You

will listen and you'll seek to understand and not to divide. I bet I guarantee you, please. If you can remember this in the next conversation that you have, where you have the opportunity to destroy or build up, I hope that you'll remember to unify and either shut the fuck up. I probably that's the best thing to do. Just shut the fuck up and don't say anything, which is what I've been telling my daughter these days. Just shut up. Don't say anything. You don't need any. No one cares about your opinion. And frankly, they're not going to take it anyway. When you have a focus on unity, when you have a focus and you try to think and assume the best in the individual, the past failures of the world, the past failures of their person, the past failures that they have failed you on will

disappear. Gone. It's gone. Unity and what does unity at the end of the day? And I'm going to round it out with this guy's what does unity at the end of the day leave room for healing, healing to take place. The only way that's many of us out there and trust me, you might someone sent me a message the other day and said, Peter, you talk a lot about healing. Obviously I talk a lot about healing because I am aware enough to know that the world is bleeding. People are bleeding. People are hurt. People are fucked up. The fragile, the fractured, they're messed up. Life has taken its toll on man and life has taken its toll on women of this world. The world is divided. The world is being destroyed before our very eyes by people who understand this and are intentionally trying to

ensure that you and I are always divided. We're always fighting. We're always at each other's necks. These people, these, these, these evil empires, they know this. And so this is why I talk about healing. This is why I talk about unity so that we as a people, you as a person, I don't care about anybody else. You don't only you if you're listening. I want you to heal. I want you to have wholeness. Don't go to bed mad. Don't go to bed mad. Heal. Be unified. Assume the best in others and don't for fuck, for God's sake, please. Don't spend a lot of time. What you mainstream media. Seek to you, not divide. Seek to have humility. Seek to have patience. And seek peace. So my question for you guys today at the end of all this, where do you need peace? Where do you

heal. I want you to have wholeness. Don't go to bed mad. Don't go to bed mad. Heal. Be unified. Assume the best in others and don't for fuck, for God's sake, please. Don't spend a lot of time. What you mainstream media. Seek to you, not divide. Seek to have humility. Seek to have patience. And seek peace. So my question for you guys today at the end of all this, where do you need peace? Where do you need to seek out unification? Maybe even forgiveness so that you can heal. This is Peter, a bit coin land though. If you enjoyed this episode, feel free to share. Smash the like button and let people know that we are on Google Play. And we are on podcasts on iTunes and all sorts of stuff. Guys, I'll see you behind the scenes on the end of the video.