YOUR FEARS ARE BULLSH*T - #1 THING to REMEMBER! - You Haven't Faced Death YET! - 005 #Carpreneur

I read that and I chuckled I'm not gonna lie this is an unscripted the number five fear in Americans today is the fear of what the living [ __ ] I've built many startups will so then the face of Bitcoin is exactly in the place that I like to be we're gonna end it right there [Music] well the people have spoken and you guys have spoken clearly you would like me to talk about fear and so fear is what we will talk about I was having a conversation with an individual and I simply asked him the question you don't need any of the other context but I simply asked him the question what do you fear and the reason why I brought up this question was because I was getting a lot of pushback I was getting a lot of excuses I was getting a

lot of yes but sure howevers yeah well like these types of statements right so I could go over them doesn't matter that's all I heard though all I heard were the first words yeah but well so when it's all I heard and so I finally asked this individual I simply said what do you fear what is it that you fear and we sat there for a moment and we discussed it well actually more than a moment we spent damn near close to probably 20 minutes talking about this and I can boil it down for you it's the fear of the unknown that is the meta it's the fear of the unknown but when we look at the larger play the larger picture the fear of the unknown is not helpful because every second that ticks by is the unknown you just lived it you were

just there right hopefully you were a highly engaged participant in that moment is the hope and not some sort of passive blob that's living their lives through the lazy river in that water pool that you went to when you were 12 years old okay damn those lazy rivers are awesome though aren't they you just get this sit there as a piece of sludge and have the water take you away and you say take you where take you to wherever that lazy river wants to go and the irony is the lazy river never ends the lazy river never ends there's an unseen force that makes sure that that lazy river goes in a loop forever and ever and ever but it is not satisfying for us to sit merely at the metal level and say it's the fear of the unknown we have to categorize these

ideas we have to categorize what is the fear and for this individual the fear was the fear Auto sip it put it simply it's the fear of what other people think I've talked about this particular idea a lot and frankly I love talking about this idea because talking about this idea firms in my soul why not giving a [ __ ] about what other people think there is one of the very Pat most powerful keys to success it's that simple I could give you many reasons why but I'll leave it to three number one caring about what other people think takes up time to care about what other people think why do you need to think about what other people think number two taking the time to care about what other people think dee focus is you from what you should be thinking about which

is one of the very Pat most powerful keys to success it's that simple I could give you many reasons why but I'll leave it to three number one caring about what other people think takes up time to care about what other people think why do you need to think about what other people think number two taking the time to care about what other people think dee focus is you from what you should be thinking about which is your business or your hustle or whatever you want to do exceptionally well I hope you're not in that lazy river and number three thinking or considering about what other people think about you means absolutely nothing because they will never operate from an understanding a deep understanding deep contextual understanding of what you're going through to a tea so they are merely making assumptions and assertions about what

they think given the limited information they have about what they thought your idea or your tactic or your strategy or the action that you're gonna take whatever now we cannot discount wise counsel wise counsel should always be asked for but please don't be don't get it twisted here guys when I mean what other people think I'm talking about the Internet's okay I'm talking about the community I'm talking about the world at large I'm not talking about your mentor who who or the the wise counsel that's around you that helps you make great life decisions no you need to care about what they think you've asked them to help you live a successful life and if you don't have mentors you don't have people like that you should get some maybe we should do a podcast talking about that someday actually I already have so you

guys can look it up at the beats coin pub slash p90x check it out those are individuals that you the wise counsel that you need but giving two shits about what other people think about what you're doing in life is completely a waste of time that fear is redonkulous and so I thought on this after my conversation with them because I've had so many conversations about fears before and I don't mind revisiting it because it's important to quicken yourself to remind yourself to revalidate to yourself why certain things should not be wasted on certain things in life and certain fears in life and certain ideas or thoughts there's certain things you just they're just Time Bandits they take away from productivity to take away from what you should be doing and so I thought more on this idea of fear we all agree we all

agree that fear is real fear is a very real thing so after this conversation is like you know what I'm really good at helping them see the illegitimate see often in that fear in terms of what could happen from that fear now is the fear real yeah we acknowledge that you truly have this fear this is something that is going through your mind it's going through its rattling through your bones granted but to allow that fear to paralyze you to in action that's that's what we have to overcome and so what really is the cross counter what is the cross counter what is the counter to fear and so I thought about this what is the counter fear and it would be easy you know I've said this before but it would be easy for me to simply say well you know just let's just

rattling through your bones granted but to allow that fear to paralyze you to in action that's that's what we have to overcome and so what really is the cross counter what is the cross counter what is the counter to fear and so I thought about this what is the counter fear and it would be easy you know I've said this before but it would be easy for me to simply say well you know just let's just do it just go and this is true I mean this is a muscle then it needs to be flexed the muscle of execution so many of you guys have a very strong muscle of paralysis like that muscle is so ingrained and so calcified in your behaviors like you don't even have to work at it anymore new idea really cool thing that you really would want to pursue

nope paralysis I flex that muscle so so so so much I don't you have to worry about it oh my oh my body will ensure everything in my body will ensure that I do nothing on the opposite hand you have to flex the muscle of execution the muscle of doing the muscle of stepping forward like we've talked about this but as I thought about this I dug even deeper and this is where I really want to go with you guys a little bit deeper into this idea feel like what is the most fear what is the most fear that you could have and I thought on this like what is the most fear that I could have you know when my first thought was my first thought was the movie saw like I before I was married I used to love watching scary ass movies

like I had friends I had one friend her name was Mia we used to go I think we saw almost every Saw movie like it would just be our thing like I would just hit her up and we weren't even into each other anything like that it was I would just hit her up him because I knew like she was like she was sick like this this was a sick woman okay guys just almost as mentally sick as I am um we didn't connect on many levels but on the sickness of of being so desensitized to horror movies like we both had a level of extremeness where I would just hit her up and say hey the new self or came out and they you know whatever like the new most gruesome movie of the of the summer just came out you'll want to see

it and she'd be like she'd text back should be like hell yeah so we would go see these things I mean this is how decent and I'll tell you I tell you the reason why the reason why is because and and I I blame there's I blame there's a lot of people I could blame but I don't tell you who I'm blaming here okay but I'll tell you the reason why I love loved I don't want them anymore but I used to love gore like gore films like just ridiculously it's not even scary it's just gory just like it's like you know what is this why are we seeing like body parts thrown all over the place and the reason I got into that is because I saw the movie it in two or two two movies I saw The Nightmare on Elm Street I

you the reason why I love loved I don't want them anymore but I used to love gore like gore films like just ridiculously it's not even scary it's just gory just like it's like you know what is this why are we seeing like body parts thrown all over the place and the reason I got into that is because I saw the movie it in two or two two movies I saw The Nightmare on Elm Street I don't remember what age but I believe was in the 80s it has to be in it in the 80s Nightmare on Elm Street and then I saw the movie it's I think in the early 90s those two movies ridiculously scary gruesome I mean for a for its time for sure and like I watched these movies and I and they changed these movies changed me guys they changed

me like I don't know what it was and so I thought like is this something that would be fearful like that would I be scared of being in positions like this and I don't really know I'm sure I'd be scared but I don't know what it's like and I don't know I don't know if that's the scariest thing that I could experience being like chained up or being in a horror film then I thought about experiences in the past right like scary moments of my of my past I couldn't really think of any I mean I lived through him didn't I so you know how my attitude and my worldview is is vital if I've lived through them I persevered through them then it couldn't have been that bad [ __ ] right it could have been that bad you know brother didn't die so

then I thought about like my future like what do I fear in the future and I immediately cut that off because I don't fear anything in the future I don't know there's nothing to fear in the future the future is only unrealized gains the future is only unrealized potential it's living to it right so there's nothing there that I fear you know it's kind of stuck I was like well what would be the most fearful thing and as I kind of looked around I sitting in my desk here looked around I looked around to my my piece my firearm because I have concealed carry permit and I am almost always can carry in on my person I haven't taken self-defense courses and and firearm training I am well equipped and well prepared I believe if I ever have to use I never want to ever

use but I'd rather be prepared than not and I saw this this piece it's firearm and one la I had my answer killing the man that right there my friends would be one scary ass proposition I think no I've never done this but where has it done a lot ah war that was easy but war is easier these days guys war is easy these days we just get to drop bombs on people all right it just pressed buttons nowadays and people just evaporate get eviscerated into the to the ether but what about war before guns about war before gunpowder what about sword combat spear combat we're talking about your Romans your Greeks right face-to-face type [ __ ] like hardcore in the [ __ ] arena crushing it you guys are crushing it like I'm getting excited about this no this is sword combat guys

get to drop bombs on people all right it just pressed buttons nowadays and people just evaporate get eviscerated into the to the ether but what about war before guns about war before gunpowder what about sword combat spear combat we're talking about your Romans your Greeks right face-to-face type [ __ ] like hardcore in the [ __ ] arena crushing it you guys are crushing it like I'm getting excited about this no this is sword combat guys we're talking about killing a man we're talking about I mean that's real that's raw the battlefield guys and we were talking about the battlefield of the mind we we don't live in in the battlefield of the Romans and Greeks guys we don't live in our battlefield as we talked about in previous podcast it's the battlefield of the mind and we all spend many more times talking about

this particular topic cuz it's so important to be reminded I felt powerful our mind really is but man on the battlefield in olden days before gunpowder before guns before all the cheatin button presses right before they up down up down av start right before the easy cheat codes of killing war was raw war was savage she was face to face the battlefield was real the smells were real the sights were real the blood was real the emotions were real in the god the god who that battleground that was the god of fear I know it I know it it had to be and so like a good scientist that I am well educated as I am I did some google searching because I like to go deep on my thoughts because they allow me to make better informed decisions in the future as I see

and I am able to utilize what I read to advance myself so I googled guys and I found a great article by Edgar Jones from the Journal of contemporary history in 2006 the title of this particular article huge long very long is called the psychology of killing the combat experience British soldiers during the First World War you see I wanted to understand killing because I understood here's my assumption my hypothesis was and I felt really affirmed in this hypothesis is that the greatest fear you can have is having to kill another man having to kill someone else and so what did I need I needed someone who's done the research on what happens to a man after they kill someone or what happens to men before they kill what happens to men in war when they are killing other people right so I googled stuff

guys I found many articles not quite hitting it on the head and I finally found this one by Edgar Jones I'll redo the title again it's the psychology of killing combat experience of British soldiers and during the First World War so you're gonna learn something here guys I'll give you the TLDR that took too long did not read version do men enjoy killing the answer is no I'm gonna read you the first and then I'm gonna go to the end he says quote in recent years revisionist historians very important you guys know how much I loved decentralized applications for the new world now if you're new here and you don't know what a decentralized application is I'll tell you what it is simply a decentralized application allows that application to be proliferated around the entire world and no one individual has control of it okay

I'm gonna read you the first and then I'm gonna go to the end he says quote in recent years revisionist historians very important you guys know how much I loved decentralized applications for the new world now if you're new here and you don't know what a decentralized application is I'll tell you what it is simply a decentralized application allows that application to be proliferated around the entire world and no one individual has control of it okay so that's what decentralization allows for the problem with history is history is centralized and because history is centralized history is constantly being rewritten so that we will never know what really happened this is not some conspiracy guys this is real this is why I love decentralized applications like every pedia decentralized applications like library so that information can be stored facts can be stored history can be stored

and not be revised all the time this article is important given the fact that revisionist history is so real and so powerful that the history that you think you thought you knew is wrong let's start again in recent years revisionist historians have offered a new and potentially disturbing reason why most soldiers survive the experience of trench warfare without becoming psychiatric casualties in the pity of war nail ferguson argued that for many combat for many in combat was not as devastating experience but exciting adventurous and fun precisely because of the danger furthermore he suggested that men quote simply took pleasure in killing end quote and proposed that Freud's death instinct might be revived quote to explain the readiness of millions of men to spend four and a quarter years killing and being killed Ferguson took the radical position that the First World War was in part

quote belonged to the British soldiers joy of combat men kept fighting because they wanted to in an intimate history of killing Joanna Burke acknowledged that recruits expressed an inherent resistance to killing and that this had to be overcome by training and we're gonna revisit this again in a second guys however once civilians had been turned into effective soldiers many found that killing associated with quote intense feelings of pleasure and quote because commentators were stuck with the quote ease with which men were able to kill end quote she concluded incorrectly that men are unable to cope with killing or an aberrant group no not really troops in support roles immediately behind the front who were denied a quote outlet for aggressive tendencies or at the heightened risk of psychological disorders so that more men broke down in war because they were not allowed to kill rather

than under the strain of killing ok these are what these revisionist historians are saying the the revisionist case was not entirely new as Glenn gray now American philosopher and argued that many men both paint and love combat enjoying that not only the the the delight of comradeship but also the delight of destruction well not an interesting entry infantrymen himself gray as a member that counterintelligence unit during the Second World War had been attached to fighting units in Italy and southern France which you never really saw combat he recalled that quote soldiers who cherished concrete emotions found the moral atmosphere of the front so much more endurable than in the rear areas that they willingly accepted the greater strain in personal danger of combat conceding that there were some soldiers who simply endure war gray concluded quote happiness is doubtless the wrong word for the satisfaction

the Second World War had been attached to fighting units in Italy and southern France which you never really saw combat he recalled that quote soldiers who cherished concrete emotions found the moral atmosphere of the front so much more endurable than in the rear areas that they willingly accepted the greater strain in personal danger of combat conceding that there were some soldiers who simply endure war gray concluded quote happiness is doubtless the wrong word for the satisfaction that men experience when they are possessed by the lust to destroy and kill their kind thousands of youths who never suspected the presence of such an impulse in themselves have learned in military life the mad excitement of destroying hmm more recently support for the hypothesis that soldiers enjoy killing came from Theodore needle singer psychiatrist who treated ex-servicemen at the Boston Veterans Administration Hospital based on the testimony

of 24 anonymized cases that's not a lot guys 24 cases Nate Olsen concluded that the true killers in Vietnam or quote ordinary men before enlisted he argued that once in the initial resistance had overcome in training soldiers become addicted to the excitement and the sense of freedom created by the license to kill while the act itself could assume the quality of sexual arousal or drug-induced Texas ecstasy given that the veterans he had interviewed had all suffered from intractable psychiatric disorders including post-traumatic stress disorder medicine implicitly rejected any suggestion that killing protected against mental illness the joy of war case stands in contrast to SLA Marshalls observations of u.s. forces engaged in northwest Europe and the Pacific yes amid that only 25 percent of instrument fired and for good purpose during combat Roy Jing Curran John Spiegel - American psychiatrist who treated US troops in North

Africa also concluded that soldier few soldiers anticipate pleasure from destruction are killing and although some chronically hostile aggressive individuals may be fascinated by the prospect of getting all the fighting they want they frequently find it impossible to adapt their habitually irresistible personalities to the controlled environment of teamwork in coordination necessary in battle basically saying that for those who did enjoy the idea of blood lust didn't get it as much as they wanted because they had to work as a team and they can't be going out you know all 300 style and trying to kill everybody around you here's why this is important guys subsequently and this is the whole idea of training subsequently Dave Grossman suggested that increasingly realistic training ooh let's say that again this is an article no no this is a 2006 but this is talking about research done back after the

first and second world war and Vietnam subsequently Dave Grossman suggests that increasingly realistic training was needed to overcome the natural reluctance of recruits to kill techniques of desensitization and conditioning including the replacement of bullseye targets with human representations that fell back on being hit eroded any resistance a servicemen might feel towards shooting an enemy as a result firing rate of fifty five percent was observed in Korea rising to ninety percent in Vietnam according to the changes in training this article reevaluate s-- the accounts of soldiers and their doctors and examines new evidence from shellshock treatment units to identify the causes of site reacted psychiatric breakdown on the battlefield admissions for shell-shocked have been recorded to test whether the incidents of psychological disorder changed the response to different phases of battle this data may help to us to answer the long debated question as to whether

rising to ninety percent in Vietnam according to the changes in training this article reevaluate s-- the accounts of soldiers and their doctors and examines new evidence from shellshock treatment units to identify the causes of site reacted psychiatric breakdown on the battlefield admissions for shell-shocked have been recorded to test whether the incidents of psychological disorder changed the response to different phases of battle this data may help to us to answer the long debated question as to whether soldiers ceased to function because they had been worn down by the gradual attrition and physical hardships of trench warfare or because they had been subjected to the greater risks of going over the top in addition the unit's from which the patients were referred have been analysed to find out whether the frontline or combat support troops were particularly affected by the stress of battle guys this was a

long and drawn-out article but the end is very simple it is clear I know that the revisionist historians wanna paint you know our old ancestors as these a blood lusting you know bloodlust thirsty monsters and certainly Hollywood does a fantastic job of reinforcing that this idea but to me and I don't get how people can come up with these other ideas but and then again it's just little o me I never believed I never believed that men will ever want to kill it is against the natural order of things and let me go to the very end going all the way down ah let's get where is it okay let's go to the end here we go this is the summary summary of all their research here we go killing in war has remained largely taboo in Birken Ferguson are commended for exploring this emotive

issue there is perhaps something inherently a noble about combat knowledge denied to all apart from those who took part historians can of course see critique approximations through oral testimony and contemporary accounts but there are few certainties in the issues of killing while soldiers who took pleasure in such act undoubtedly existed it is far from certain that they were typical it is also undeniable that troops found periods of excitement in the adventure of war and the camaraderie of combat fear fear fear as Burke argued elsewhere was the most dominant emotion of battle and if any enjoyment was achieved it was due to the remarkable resilience of the human imagination so my hypothesis was correct guys my hypothesis was correct that the greatest thing that you can fear is being in a position to kill and take the life of another so is that something that we

fear today is that something that you fear on the regular I just debunked your entire fear issue my friends see what I did there you have nothing to fear because you will never pray God ever be in a position where you have to take another man another person's life you will never get that far you have nothing to fear if that's the most fearful thing that you could do and so I did a little bit of more research guys and I looked up the top 10 biggest fears you guys I've already seen these lists and I actually went to three different sources and they were all relatively the same number one is plains fear of plane number two public speaking number three Heights number four the fear of darkness and lived fear of darkness geez number five the fear of intimacy what a bunch of

could do and so I did a little bit of more research guys and I looked up the top 10 biggest fears you guys I've already seen these lists and I actually went to three different sources and they were all relatively the same number one is plains fear of plane number two public speaking number three Heights number four the fear of darkness and lived fear of darkness geez number five the fear of intimacy what a bunch of [ __ ] what what kind of [ __ ] ass generation do we live in guys I am not even I read that and I chuckled I'm not gonna lie this is an unscripted this is a real authentic radical transparency show guys podcasts whatever you want to [ __ ] call it number that the number one the number five fear in Americans today is the fear of

intimacy what the living [ __ ] I don't even know what to say hey are you [ __ ] see what a bunch of pansy ass [ __ ] running around number six the fear of death I'm r7 the fear failure wow this is number seven really number eight - fear of reach it the fear of rejection I'm a bunch of [ __ ] and we're number nine the fear of spiders number 10 the fear of commitment you know if you're not like laughing inside just a little bit okay where what has happened what has the best the boomer generation [ __ ] us that bad is that what happened did the boomers [ __ ] us that bad man what happened guys the fear of darkness the fear intimacy the fear of rejection the fear of commitment you know all these you know all

these boil down to the fear of public speaking you almost boils down to it boils down to the very beginning of today's show my friend the fear of what other people think about you guys you see what I did I just did bump your whole like fear thing you ain't never gonna fear the greatest fear being on the battlefield how to take another man's life with the potential of that guy putting his spear or his sword right between your eyes or right in your side or cutting off your leg tis but a scratch guys you're not gonna I'm not gonna be there okay you're not gonna be an axe paddler okay it's not gonna happen so what are you scared of what do you fearful of you're not fear you might need not fear to Heights or planes or death or darkness or spiders commitment

a failure rejection it's like wow are you scared what other people think about you I'm gonna give you the number one way to reduce the fear in your life it'll be the best way and you know what you're going to have to remind yourself and you're going to have to preach this to yourself every day you're just gonna have to do it you're just gonna have to do it I had to do it I had to do it you just have to preach to yourself every day that it does not matter what other people say or what other people think about your dreams in life because guess what you're not gonna be around in a hundred years and neither are they let that sink in like you are not going to be around in a hundred years okay they're not going to be around in

do it I had to do it I had to do it you just have to preach to yourself every day that it does not matter what other people say or what other people think about your dreams in life because guess what you're not gonna be around in a hundred years and neither are they let that sink in like you are not going to be around in a hundred years okay they're not going to be around in a hundred years now you can look at this fatalistically and say well [ __ ] bro that's [ __ ] depressing I'm not gonna be around on it yeah well I don't give a [ __ ] I just Mia what I'm gonna be well you know what I would look at it the other way I'm not gonna be in a hundred I better make this the best

damn time of my life because there is no dress rehearsal there is no practice in life there is only time tick tick tick tick taken away and you're not gonna be here in a hundred years they're not gonna be here in a hundred years so what are you scared of [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music]