WHY SO SERIOUS? - Don't Let WORK Suck the JOY out of LIFE! - 046

I wish I had responded in a positive and humble way. I really wish I did. I really wish I did, but I didn't. Him there, broken in batter, just like I'm broken in battered off to this long battle with the failed project, the failed idea. It had lots of legs. There's no need to go into why it didn't work. But he asked me this piercing question. Do you make it? Do you put us in a position, right? Do you make it so that it is impossible for others to keep up with you? I wish I had a better answer, but I was salty and I was way too serious. And you know what my answer was to him? As I looked to him right in the eye, my answer was yes. I built many startups. Most of them the failed. So Bitcoin is exactly the

place that I like to be. We're gonna end it right there. Oh man, guys, I just had to laugh about today's topic. And I'm just gonna jump right into it. The title of today's topic is Why So Serious. Now obviously you guys have heard this phrase before by the infamous or famous Joker from the dark night with Heath Ledger. And we all know that he did such an exceptional job of portraying the insanity, the complete insanity of a man. And if you were to extrapolate to the extreme, a man who seriously, not seriously, takes life somewhat not so seriously, but yet is serious about not being serious. You see, that's the tension. That's the tension as I thought about this and I wrote these notes down. I think it's easy for us. And I know that I can do this. And I'm gonna be preaching

mostly to myself today is that sometimes we can take life way too seriously. Me raising my hand 100%. I take life sometimes way too seriously. And it's part and parcel if I may as part of who I am. It's how I was created, it's how I was built. I'm a passionate individual. I put everything into it. I'm not a guy with a plan B. I'm not a guy with a plan B or a plan C or a backup plan. I'm a type of dude who's just like, let's do it. Let's go hard. Let's get serious. Life is fucking short. And so as you can probably imagine, someone like me deals with this tension a lot of taking life too seriously and thinking that other people aren't. And that my friends is completely on me. You know, we get caught up so easily in our own

little world. And as I wrote that word down little on my notes, I was like, really? Is everyone's world really just little and the answer if we're intellectually honest is yes. Your world is infinitesimally small. It is so small. It is just a spec in terms of the grand plane that we live on. This grand world that we live on. You're just a spec. We get caught up in all of this. Let's be honest. I'm sitting here right now. And as I try not to take life too seriously and letting the ambulances fly by. But we get caught up in our own little world that don't we? We think it's like all it's all about us. It's all consuming. It's all about what we want. Our expectations, our needs, our desires. And what happens when we get caught up in our own little world is

up in all of this. Let's be honest. I'm sitting here right now. And as I try not to take life too seriously and letting the ambulances fly by. But we get caught up in our own little world that don't we? We think it's like all it's all about us. It's all consuming. It's all about what we want. Our expectations, our needs, our desires. And what happens when we get caught up in our own little world is it sucks the joy out of life. I wrestle with this. I am not, I am not beyond it. You know, not admitting it or admitting it or whatever you want to say it. I mean, I get caught up and joy gets sucked out of my life. It's, it's, it's what's joy is replaced by. And I'm sure many of you guys can resonate with this is that joy

is replaced by a half to I have to. I should I have to. Right. That's what happens. I have to do this. I have to do that. I have to get this done today. I have to make sure that this happens. I got to make sure that this happens. Right. Like it's all itself imposed. It's a self-employed joy sucking mentality when life gets too serious or we, we believe that others aren't taking life serious. And we, what we become. What we become is we become our own joint killers for ourselves. And for those around us, even ask, you can ask my wife guys. It's not that hard. You can ask my wife. Say, hey, is your, does your husband sometimes get into joy killing mode where everyone around him becomes a barren wasteland of destruction and, and especially when he gets involved deeply into very

complex or, or complex parts of the business or areas of time within a project that I just need to be ridiculously focused. And I need to get this ish done. I need to get this shit down. I need to get it out the door. Like ask my wife like I get ridiculously serious. Here's a story. I can remember with one project with one project with one guy that I was working with. I remember sitting with him sitting with him at a Starbucks. Okay, and we were maybe, I don't know, a half a year in half a year into this project. And by the way, this project failed. But we were halfway into this project. And I remember guys, I was pleading with him over a fucking caramel macchiato and a yogurt parfait. I, it's, it's so crystal clear this, this event. I was pleading with

him. Pleading with him to understand my passion. I was on the verge of tears. I remember looking at him straight in the eyes and being like, look, you have to understand this is everything to me. I'm gonna, and I literally, I told him, I said, I'm going to fucking die. Like that's how far emotionally I went with this guy. And this was years ago. Thank a fuck. I'm, I think the Lord, I'm far more mature now. But I literally told him, I said, I'm going to fucking die. And he was like, took like, he's like, wait, are you guy cancer? No. For me, it was so serious that I was, I was moving into the verbiage of, I am, of, I have a short life on my life. I'm on this planet. And I'm going to fucking die. And I need to do this shit

I'm, I think the Lord, I'm far more mature now. But I literally told him, I said, I'm going to fucking die. And he was like, took like, he's like, wait, are you guy cancer? No. For me, it was so serious that I was, I was moving into the verbiage of, I am, of, I have a short life on my life. I'm on this planet. And I'm going to fucking die. And I need to do this shit now. Like now, like right, like right now. And you're not taking it seriously. I was pleading with him. I was like, please understand. And, and this, he, this is an individual, this older than me that worked for me. And, and he just, he just couldn't get it. He just, he's just like, man, like, and maybe it's just because he's more, at the time, he was more, it's

probably still more, more, more mature than me now. But he's, he's, he's, he's sat there. And I remember him, this blank stare, like, what the fuck are you talking about, Peter, you're going to die. You have to do this. Please understand my passion. Like, like, like, as if, as if the brother didn't know that working with someone like me requires that you have to keep up, you have, at least in terms of interest and grind and passion, these types of things. Like he knew who he was, he was dealing with me. I take things so seriously sometimes, especially if, if I believe that this is something that has to be done, right? And what, what happens was we become consumed. That's what it really is. Is when we're too serious, right? When we get caught up in our own world and it sucks the joy

out of ourselves as we become consumed by our priorities and our work hand raised, guys, totally guilty right here. Do I get consumed by my priorities, my work? 100%. We get consumed by our desires, our passions and our agenda hand raised again. Am I guilty of this 100% I get consumed by this. We also get consumed by our worries and our anxieties and, and unknowns. Raise hand again. Do I get caught up in this? Do I get consumed in this? But the ultimate ultimately at the end of the day, what is it really when we were too serious? When we are too serious, we are ultimately consumed by our own needs, which is ultimately selfish. Why? Because we have an unmet expectation. Because the joy has left our hearts. We have an unmet expectation that we have created, that we had conjured up. And what

happens is that unmet expectation becomes a joy killer in our hearts and destroys those around us. Why is so fucking serious, Peter? I had people say that to me. Why is so fucking serious? I get to tell you another story. I remember when I had another project that ended, I had one employee that I worked with during the kind of the extra interview. He asked me with, with, with almost, I wouldn't say tears, but it looked like he was on the verge. It's curious because he was so frustrated with what had happened. And I understand I was frustrated too. I lost a lot of money, but it was a great experience. I remember him saying something that was just so, so cutting, so it just pierced me to the bone. He said this and it was just so, he was so well positioned to deliver

with, with almost, I wouldn't say tears, but it looked like he was on the verge. It's curious because he was so frustrated with what had happened. And I understand I was frustrated too. I lost a lot of money, but it was a great experience. I remember him saying something that was just so, so cutting, so it just pierced me to the bone. He said this and it was just so, he was so well positioned to deliver this punch to my gut. He was kind of hunched over, I don't, I'll never forget these moments guys in life. He was kind of hunched over, kind of cocked his chin up just a little bit. And so his eyes had to kind of, he had to look through the side of his eyes to me. And I don't know whether it was because he was fighting back tears

or it's just imminently frustrated with me in the whole situation. But so he's kind of hunched over, chin down, chin cocked up a little bit. Eyes looking up and he asked me, says, do you make it part of your job to make it almost impossible to keep up with you? I wish I had responded in a positive and humble way. I really wish I did. I really wish I did, but I didn't. Him there broken and battered just like I'm broken and battered off to this long battle with the failed project, the failed idea. It had lots of legs. We just, there's no need to go into why it didn't work. But he asked me this piercing question. Do you make it? Do you do you put us in a position, right? Do you make it so that it is impossible for others to keep

up with you? I wish I had a better answer, but I was salty and I was way too serious. And you know what my answer was to him as I looked to him right in the eye. My answer was yes. I make it nearly impossible to keep up with me. And if you can't fucking keep pace, then it ain't going to work. Now, am I absolutely dead serious about that today? 100%. Should I deliver that message the way I delivered that message way back then? No, I shouldn't have. Should I have been more humble? Should I have been more and more at peace? Should I have said something that was smarter? Absolutely. Now, was it was it wrong for me to say was it technically wrong for me? And to say that I don't know, I haven't done too much thinking about it, but here's

the point is that I don't want to make it impossible to keep up with me. I want people to keep up. I want to do work together. I want to succeed together. But we have opportunities and we have issues sometimes where we get into taking life way too fucking seriously. And so I wrote a couple notes down here. So how do you know if you're taking yourself to seriously, it's really simple. It's really simple. People, people around you, people around you, when other people that you care about become objects of your fury and wrath. That's what happens. That's when you know, when do you know that you're taking yourself way too seriously when people, other people that you care about become the objects of your fury and your wrath that is hidden behind a thin veil of hard work, grind and hustle. At least that's

to seriously, it's really simple. It's really simple. People, people around you, people around you, when other people that you care about become objects of your fury and wrath. That's what happens. That's when you know, when do you know that you're taking yourself way too seriously when people, other people that you care about become the objects of your fury and your wrath that is hidden behind a thin veil of hard work, grind and hustle. At least that's always a my excuse. The issue is is they never take it seriously enough, right? They never take it seriously enough. You can't match me in my seriousness about this project that my desire, my passion for success, my desire, my grind. You can't, you can't meet me where I am. Right. And so this hard work, you can't keep up. And what is it, what does it look like?

It looks like the in terms of these types of questions. We say if only they work as hard as I did. If only they grind it as hard as I did. If only as they hustled as hard as I did, then everything would be okay. They would fucking keep up. They would understand how to do this. They would be able to match me. Stay pace with me. Another way of we ask that we know we know that we've taken life too seriously or things too seriously when we start saying stuff. If only they did X. If only they did Y. If only they did Z. If only they thought like this. If only they acted like this. If only they were able to do the things that I can do. Godly. Do you understand guys? It is our own unmet expectations. They are self imposed.

It's a half to attitude of this joy stealing Y2 serious mentality. All right. For me, often I realize, I realize that I've taken life too seriously, is when I realize that is when I realize that I'm not here to save anybody. I'm not here to save anybody. And frankly, I'm not here to do their job. I hired them to do their job and to do great work or to do what I'm hoping they would do. But I have to let them be them. I'm not here to save. I'm not the savior of the world. Another thing that I realize whenever I take life seriously is I realize that is that I need help too. Just like maybe the other people do. I need help too. And I can't do it by myself. I always talk about this. I can't do this alone. I can't do

this alone. Right? I struggle, guys, with the idea and the phrase that goes want something done right, you got to do it yourself. Oh, really? Oh, really? Well, if you want something done right, do it yourself. That doesn't work all the time. It doesn't work certainly forever. You can't be everything to everyone. Shed the world from your shoulders, my friends. You're not the savior of the world. Calm down, take life less seriously. Enjoy things, right? Be humble. Realize, and this is something for me. Realize that you have leveraged so many people who helped you get to where you are today. They didn't take life too seriously. They let you go at your pace. Empty yourself of unruly expectations, unruly expectations on other people that you self-impose on your self-impose on yourself. Well, don't impose them on them. Not everyone's gonna match your grind. And not

Calm down, take life less seriously. Enjoy things, right? Be humble. Realize, and this is something for me. Realize that you have leveraged so many people who helped you get to where you are today. They didn't take life too seriously. They let you go at your pace. Empty yourself of unruly expectations, unruly expectations on other people that you self-impose on your self-impose on yourself. Well, don't impose them on them. Not everyone's gonna match your grind. And not everybody's gonna match your hustle. Not everyone's gonna match your why. Everyone has a different why for doing it. Understand that. There's another one. Empty yourself for the desire of a reputation. Who cares? Who cares about your reputation? Reputation doesn't mean shit. It's a vapor. I don't wanna talk about that anymore. I have lots of ideas, but I don't wanna get, I don't wanna get into them. Harmony,

not hostility. Be a man of peace. Be a man of peace. Smile. Be grateful. Be thankful today. These are the solutions to when you're feeling too serious in life. When you get into that mode of, hey, I have a self-imposed expectation. I have a self-imposed half-two, and everyone else is not doing it the way that I want. They're not doing it the pace that I want. They're not taking it seriously enough. Calm, the fuck down, Peter. I'm just preaching to myself. Calm, the fuck down. Smile. Smile. Be grateful. Be thankful. The birds are singing. That things are happening. That we're moving one percent every day. We don't have to be so serious in life. And guys, this for me is certainly something that I wrestle with and struggle with. So for you guys out there today, smile. Be grateful. Be thankful as I try to

be thankful as well. There's so much to be thankful for. There's so much to be grateful for. And we don't need to take life so seriously. This is Peter, the Bitcoin Landbo. If you enjoyed this episode, smash the like button, subscribe, and please send this to one person in your network. Share it, guys. Share it. Don't be so serious. And have a great one.