3 WAYS to OVERCOME TEMPTATION that LEADS TO SUFFERING AND UNWISE DECISIONS! - 050

Social media is not the problem. Acting single. Acting single on social media when you're not single is the fucking problem. I've built many startups, most of them I've failed. So Bitcoin is exactly the place that I like to be. We're gonna end it right there. Have you ever been tempted before? Yeah. Of course you have. Of course you have been tempted before. You've been tempted before. Haven't you? I mean, I bet you can harken back to many different situations in your life in which you were tempted. And if we can all agree, I think we can all agree here. Is that at the other end of that temptation was ruined. Wasn't it? Wasn't ruined at the other end of that temptation? You know, one of the most, the craziest things, one of the craziest things about temptation, one of the craziest things about temptation is

that temptation is always attractive. Is it not, isn't temptation always attractive? I mean, I can give you examples. It's been, temptation is never ugly. It never looks bad, right? It's like feasting on tons of great food. It looks great. It looks attractive. We have this place that we love to go as a family. And we love it so much that we have renamed it. It's called food heaven. And at food heaven, it is unlimited top shelf meats. And all, I mean, it's just, we can't go to food heaven too many times because it is just too much temptation. And I know that's not a great, it's not a great example, but it's a true example for millions of people every day, right? Food is a great temptation. It looks great, but the calories are killing us. What about the temptation of a financial deal, right?

A too good to be true. You're not going to lose anything. You're only going to win. Get those gains, guys. Right? You ever been scammed before? I've been scammed before online. I've purchased in my past. I've purchased too good to be true, little, little, get rich, quick schemes in my, my naive youth. I got sucked into it. What about this? What about the attractive woman? What about the bubbly and overly bubbly and attractive woman of the other end of that business deal? She's just a little too friendly. And it's just a little bit too touchy. And after the business deal is done, she lingered just a little bit too long around you. You ever been there before? You see, temptation only leads to unwise decisions and ruin on the other end of it. On the other end of the spectrum of temptation is, it's ruined,

guys. I wrote this down here as a definition for me. Temptation is a desire enticing you to make an unwise decision. And that is the context of today's conversation. And you have many choices to make throughout the day. You have many options throughout the day. You have all these decisions to make. And not all of them come under the guise or come under the context of temptation, which is a negative thing, right? Temptation is a desire enticing you to make an unwise decision. But don't miss this guy. It's a desire that is conjured up in you. That is already in you. You see, temptation isn't bad. Temptation isn't bad, or if we use a religious term, it's temptation isn't sin in and of itself. But what it can do, what temptation can do, is it reveals an internal desire that may just get you into

which is a negative thing, right? Temptation is a desire enticing you to make an unwise decision. But don't miss this guy. It's a desire that is conjured up in you. That is already in you. You see, temptation isn't bad. Temptation isn't bad, or if we use a religious term, it's temptation isn't sin in and of itself. But what it can do, what temptation can do, is it reveals an internal desire that may just get you into trouble in life. Isn't that the case? Temptation in and of itself isn't bad, right? But it can reveal an internal desire in you, something that's innate in you, that it may just get you into trouble in life, considering the circumstances in which the temptation is today. You see, wise men, wise men see temptation coming a mile away. They've seen the script. They've seen the footage. They know

what happens at the end of this story. Mostly because of their vast amount of experience being tempted in their youth and their younger years and failing that test over and over. You see, wise men see that temptation coming. They know what's going to happen. They've gone through these behaviors before. And brother, sister, man, I can tell you how many times I've been in tempting situations where I'm like, hmm, I've smelled this before I get this. And being, hopefully, the wise individual that I am, I either do one of two things. I prepare to overcome it because I'm stuck in this situation and I have to push through it and persevere through it, or I remove myself. You know, one of the reasons why this kind of sparked in my mind is my overall disdain for social media. You guys have heard plenty of times in

these podcasts and in these series how much I hate and despise social media for its effects on humans. Now social media like temptation isn't bad. It's not bad in and of itself. The problem with social media is social media reveals issues, flaws in our character, immature aspects of our humanity, desires in us and they take those desires to the wrong levels. Social media has often been blamed for infidelity, bull shit, bull shit, bull shit, bull shit. If you ever see or ever hear or ever read of an article or someone talking about social media is to be blamed for infidelity. Social media is to be blamed for people cheating on each other. That is 100% bull shit. You know why? Because social media isn't the problem. Let me tell you the problem, guys. Social media is not the problem. Acting single. Acting single on social

media when you're not single is the fucking problem. You see men and women are fucking weak. You're weak. You're weak. You're in a relationship. And while you're in that relationship, you know what you're doing, I'm going to look at this from a high level. It's going to sound really cheesy and really bad, but that's by design. You're in a relationship with someone else. You know what you're doing? You're on your fucking phone smashing like buttons, swiping up or swiping left or swiping right or whatever you swipe and spending time focusing on pictures of people that you don't even know. Why are you doing that? Why do I see so many memes and so many jokes of girls coming in and seeing their boyfriends harding other hot girls on Instagram or TikTok or tweeters or whatever other systems you guys use. Snapchat or Ruse. I like,

doing? You're on your fucking phone smashing like buttons, swiping up or swiping left or swiping right or whatever you swipe and spending time focusing on pictures of people that you don't even know. Why are you doing that? Why do I see so many memes and so many jokes of girls coming in and seeing their boyfriends harding other hot girls on Instagram or TikTok or tweeters or whatever other systems you guys use. Snapchat or Ruse. I like, why is that a meme? Why is that a thing? It's because these men are weak. These men are weak. You're with a yoga. You're with a girl. Focus on her. Give her your all. Why are you harding other bikini-clad women on fucking social media? What's your problem, dude? You image her fuck. What's your dysfunction? What's your major malfunction? Are you not getting the love? Are you not

getting the validity you need? Are you not receiving the feel good that you need because you've been programmed by the mainstream media that you need to feel good all the time and your needs are more important than anyone else's? Like, this shit slays me, guys. It slays me that social media is blamed for infidelity when social media cannot be blamed for infidelity. It's a weak man. It's a weak woman on the other side of social media who act single when they're not. You see, temptation in my book. Temptation in my book. And I have a small book, guys. But temptation in my book only leads to bad. So how can we? How can we prepare? How can we overcome temptation in the trials of will? Well, I'll tell you, you must master your emotions. And if you want to go back, you can search for

master your emotions and a podcast and listen to that. But temptation always requires a situation. It requires a situation to be in. You have an innate desire. You have innate needs, innate feelings. And those feelings aren't wrong. The temptations aren't wrong. It's just when the temptation and the situation in those feelings all come together. And it makes you, well, it tempts you. It tempts you to do stupid shit. For example, shitty business deals. When I say shitty business deals, what I'm really talking about is like, get rich, quick scams in these types of things. What about the temptation to cheat on your taxes? The temptation to cheat on expense reports. I can't tell you. I don't know why that's coming up. Fucking mind is probably because I still have shit in my spine, making me think about my consulting life of old. I can't tell

you how many times I've talked with guys who, who, who, and it's not like they're, they're, they're willing, they're not even well-intentioned. They're just stayed a matter of fact. They just, they just, they just not cheat, but they, it was, what's the word I want to use. They, they don't do their expense reports, right? I worked with a lot of their consultants. They don't do their expense reports, right? They expense something that shouldn't be expense or, or, and, and, and of course, is, are they ever going to be caught? No, no one's ever going to be caught when you're doing expense reports as a consultant. But for me, it mattered. For me, it mattered. For me, it mattered to be above board. For me, it mattered to, to make sure that I was filling out everything correctly, that I wasn't billing for work I didn't

reports, right? They expense something that shouldn't be expense or, or, and, and, and of course, is, are they ever going to be caught? No, no one's ever going to be caught when you're doing expense reports as a consultant. But for me, it mattered. For me, it mattered. For me, it mattered to be above board. For me, it mattered to, to make sure that I was filling out everything correctly, that I wasn't billing for work I didn't do. And then maybe that's just a moral and ethical conundrum. Maybe that's just something for me because I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm pure tanical in nature. I don't know. But I mean, like, expense reports, business deals, taxes. What about cutting corners in business is a temptation. Doing this shitty thing, not, not having good quality with your service or your products, cutting corners is a temptation. What about being

honest, just fucking being honest to people, the temptation to just, to just exaggerate a little bit, the temptation to not tell the whole truth, or the temptation to, to, to lie by omission or just not talk about it. What about peer temptation? Oh, man, I could go all the way back. All the way down to middle school and high school guys. I, man, I could tell you the, the peer temptations I had and if you're listening to this and in the age group of middle school, high school, high college, you know exactly what I'm talking about. I, I, I'm going to, I've talked about this before. I don't mind saying again, but guys, show me your friends. I'll show you your future. Whoever you have fucking hang out with is going to be your future. That's going to be your future. If you're like me,

and let me take a side tangent for a second here, if you're like me, you're always moving to the next level. If you're always moving to the next level, then I'm going to say something that might sound counterintuitive, but guess what? For me, it's been a truism. It's been a truth. Every time I move to the next level, I find a new set of friends. And sometimes I move through these levels fast in life. You say, well, what does fast mean? Well, maybe within a year, I will have completely changed my, the friends that surround me, because I'm moving up. And if you're not moving up to it, why should I allow you to stagnate me? That's a temptation. A temptation to hang out with people because you, I don't know why you hang out with them. Does it make you feel good? Did they

improve your life? Or are they just a waste of time? Are they just a time band that you found that, hey, you know what, hanging out with this guy? It doesn't hurt anything except when you look at it objectively, you just burn three hours doing nothing but talking about shit and watching Netflix in the background. Like, what the fuck is that all about? I appear a temptation to do stupid shit. I can tell you stories for days. I'm not nearing end of go there. I did so much stupid shit in middle school, high school. College, I kind of, college I really figured shit out, but it was middle school and high school for me. What about relationship temptation? Obviously, be fucking faithful. I don't even understand why people get into relationships and have already the intention that there's going to be some side chick or

to do stupid shit. I can tell you stories for days. I'm not nearing end of go there. I did so much stupid shit in middle school, high school. College, I kind of, college I really figured shit out, but it was middle school and high school for me. What about relationship temptation? Obviously, be fucking faithful. I don't even understand why people get into relationships and have already the intention that there's going to be some side chick or side man or something like that. I never understood. I really never understood it. And I have had deep, long discussions with individuals in my past and sitting down for like hours talking with them about why I just don't understand that. I just don't understand why infidelity is a thing. Why is this fun? Why is it worth ruining your life? Okay, let me break it down, guys. Let

me break it down. When it comes to infidelity and relationships and the temptation to be unfaithful to your spouse or your partner or to your girlfriend, whatever. Most suffering in life. Most all suffering in life comes through the means of relationships. If you like never get into a relationship, your suffering is dramatically reduced. It's minimized because it's only through the variable nature of humanity and humans because humans are fucking variable and they can never predict human behavior. It's only because the only reason we suffer in life so many ways is because of relationships. So knowing this truth, why would you want to invite more suffering just because you get a little bit of pounting? Like that shit, guys. I don't understand men and their third small ass leg. I don't get it. I really don't get it, guys. So maybe someone in the comments, you

can let me know what I'm missing here. But I'm telling you, I have had deep conversations with men who have gone through infidelity, who have gone through cheating scenarios. Either they were their spouse's fault or what I've been on had conversations on both sides. I still don't fucking get it. I'll ever fucking get it, like deeply get it. Kali, what about the temptation to be wealthy, to be rich, right? Get rich, get rich, quick schemes, right? The allure, the allure of affluence, the allure of big houses, nice cars, freedom, right? Power, prestige, isn't that temptation? The problem with money temptations is it creates idols in life. I'll tell you the answer to this temptation is generosity. Be generous with your time and your money. Give money away. And maybe I should probably do a segment on this podcast in the future about this. But I

will tell you that the more money that you give away, the richer you become. It doesn't make sense from a, from if you just listen to what I just said. It doesn't make sense from outward appearance, but I'm going to tell you the more that you give away, the more wealthy you become. At least that's been my experience. So what is the answer? What is the answer to temptation? Because remember, temptation is a desire enticing you to make an unwise decision. An attemptation requires a situation where your innate desires are already there, but those innate desires, if you were to choose, generally lead to destruction. So what is the answer to temptation? I'm going to give you the answers. Three things. Number one, intentional pre-planning. Intentional pre-planning, a discipline to pre-plan because of your youth, your elementary middle school high school, maybe even college years,

to temptation? Because remember, temptation is a desire enticing you to make an unwise decision. An attemptation requires a situation where your innate desires are already there, but those innate desires, if you were to choose, generally lead to destruction. So what is the answer to temptation? I'm going to give you the answers. Three things. Number one, intentional pre-planning. Intentional pre-planning, a discipline to pre-plan because of your youth, your elementary middle school high school, maybe even college years, you have made so many shitty emotional decisions because of your naivete, your ignorance, and your youth. You made shitty decisions. You went out way too late. You got drunk. You got high. You slept over. You did stupid stuff. Hey, you know what? I'm not blaming you. I'm right there in the same boat as you, but you have learned my friends. You have learned so intentional pre-planning to

decide, to always do the right thing, even if it's hard. Now, this might not resonate with a lot of you guys, but I'm telling you, this is what I communicate to my children all the time. I tell my kids this all the time. You're one of the goals of good living. One of the goals of good living is to always tell the truth, even if it hurts, to always do the right thing, even if it hurts. Because only when you do the right thing, do you never have to think about it ever again. Number one. And number two, you will always have a good night's sleep because there's nothing weighing on your soul. I can't tell you that how much, that this adage, this idea, this principle in my life of intentional pre-planning to decide to always do the right thing and always be honest,

has saved me suffering so much suffering. Because I never have to have a good memory. Ask my wife. I have a terrible memory, which is fantastic. It works excruciatingly well with someone like me because if I can't remember Jack Shit guys, I can't remember. So I make a bad liar because if I say something, fuck, I don't remember if I said it. So for someone like me, having a short term, clearly short term memory loss issues, just plan for it. Plan to do the right thing. Plan to say the truthful thing. And I promise you, that life will be a life of prosperity. It'll be a life of peace. Man, that's so important. A life of peace. Well, you're not worried about what you done did yesterday, what you done said yesterday or the untruth you said. You never have to worry about what you

said. And you could always sleep at night because you don't have to remember anything. Liars have to have really good memories, guys. I don't have a memory for that. Number two, what's the answer to the temptation? The first one is intentional pre-planning to do the right thing. Number two, the answer to the temptation, avoid compromising situations. Need I explain this? You have lived long enough on this plane of an earth that we have. We have lived long enough in this life to know of the patterns of temptation, right? The overly bubbly woman at that business deal who's hanging out just a little bit too long. You know what that means. Don't play stupid with me. I can't believe how many times I've talked with men who've gone through infidelity and it's their fucking fault. And they have excuses after excuses after excuses after excuses. Brother,

plane of an earth that we have. We have lived long enough in this life to know of the patterns of temptation, right? The overly bubbly woman at that business deal who's hanging out just a little bit too long. You know what that means. Don't play stupid with me. I can't believe how many times I've talked with men who've gone through infidelity and it's their fucking fault. And they have excuses after excuses after excuses after excuses. Brother, sack the fuck up. You're responsible. You're a weak-minded. You are a weak man. God, avoid compromising situations. Why do you put yourself in situations in which your morals, your ethics, your principles, and your values will be on the chopping block? If you continue to compromise your morals, your values, your principles, you become nothing. And you know what happens when you become nothing? You're no good to anyone.

You're no good to anyone. You don't stand for anything. One of the things that I find, one of the things that I find, here's a little tidbit. You want to know one of the secrets to one of the secrets of creating content online. Be yourself. Be yourself. Be completely yourself. Be truthful. Be honest. Be who you are. And if you're like me, you'll find that you have a very small, very small ring of influence because the shit that I talk about is not fun. It's life-changing. It's helpful. It's not entertaining, which is why I have such a small audience. I don't even know why I said that. Avoid compromising situations, guys. I remove social systems. A social application. Social media. I remove myself from compromising situations with other women. I mean, do I have to make it clear? I fucking love my wife. She's hot

as shit. And I have two beautiful kids. Why would I want to fuck up something that I have worked so hard for and fought so hard for? No one in the world will ever understand what I have laid on the altar of sacrifice to make this family work. For what? For Poon Tang? For a little bit of a titillation? And they're so stupid. Women are stupid too, but we're all stupid sometimes. A void compromising situations. Life is just easier. When you don't enter into the belly of the beast and find that the only thing out there is going to be suffering at the end of that decision. Number three, this is so crucial. So crucial. Optics. Optics. Your eyes. You heard this before? Your eyes are the windows to your soul. You heard this before, right? Your eyes take you to places. Your eyes make

your wander. Do not feast. Please don't miss this, guys. Do not feast on things that you cannot have. Do not feast your eyes on things that you cannot have. I know so, I don't know so many men, but I can tell you when I'm at the gym and I'm highly observant and guys sitting there with their fucking phones, two inches from their fucking face between sets and they're swiping up and they're smashing the like button on hot bikini babes and hot workout babes. I look at them and I say, you were sad. You're sad, man. That the between each set of working out, you have to fill up your brain with fantasies and feast your eyes on things that you can't have. Why are you doing that? Why are you wasting time on that shit? I mean, I could tell you stories for days of

they're swiping up and they're smashing the like button on hot bikini babes and hot workout babes. I look at them and I say, you were sad. You're sad, man. That the between each set of working out, you have to fill up your brain with fantasies and feast your eyes on things that you can't have. Why are you doing that? Why are you wasting time on that shit? I mean, I could tell you stories for days of these types of situations. I bet. And I bet. If you're out there, I bet you've been in that situation too. Have I been in that situation? I better believe it, guys. Am I over it? Because that shit doesn't improve my life. And remember, social media and all that stuff, none of it's real. None of it's real. Please don't miss this. Whatever you want, it's going to affect

your life. It's just nature of the beast. You watch fake news all day, your worldview is going to be fucked up. You watch these news channels all day, you're going to believe the world's on fire and that everyone hates each other. Yeah, that's because your eyes tell you that. Right, you spend your eyes glazed to a mobile phone looking at things that you can't have, feasting on things that you want, but you can't have, or maybe feasting on things that you want and you can't afford, which creates moral and ethical situations to cut corners so you can get more money so that you can get that thing. Like, please, it's such a slippery slope. Guard your eyes. And I know I'm sounding like some sort of crazy person here, but seriously, guard your eyes. Why we don't have cable? This is why we don't have

TV because I don't want to be programmed into negative thought patterns, into bad juju and negative energy. Guys, your eyes are so important, which is why in many ways, have you guys not stare at me? I want you guys to just listen. And if you want to stare, you can stare at the cruel car stuff that's going on. Right? So what is the answer to temptation? Intentional pre-planning to do the right thing. Number two, avoid compromising situations. And number three, divert your eyes. Your eyes are going to take you places that you want to go. So that's all I got to say about that. Here's an example and I'll roll out with this as I was thinking about examples of temptation. Well, there's a story about a guy who's tempted. His name is Jesus. He probably know this story. And went out to the desert.

He was tempted by the devil. He know what allowed him to go get through all of that? Focus. Focus on the truth. Focus on what he knew to be true. Focus on, he stayed the course. He stuck true to his morals. He was intentionally planning to do the right thing. He couldn't avoid the temptation. But what did he do? He made sure that he did the right thing and he focused on the truth and stayed the course. If he could do it, maybe you can too. So here's the question for you guys today. What temptations are you struggling with? And how can you overcome them? Well, I already know. Do the fucking right thing. Do the right thing. Don't, don't, don't, don't invite, don't invite suffering. That's my plea. That really is my plea today guys. Don't invite suffering. Don't invite more suffering. Focus on

thing and he focused on the truth and stayed the course. If he could do it, maybe you can too. So here's the question for you guys today. What temptations are you struggling with? And how can you overcome them? Well, I already know. Do the fucking right thing. Do the right thing. Don't, don't, don't, don't invite, don't invite suffering. That's my plea. That really is my plea today guys. Don't invite suffering. Don't invite more suffering. Focus on your goals. Focus on your dreams. Focus on building something. Temptations always going to be there and it's only going to steal, rob and destroy from you. Crush it today guys. Crush it. Crush it. Crush it. Crush it. Crush it. Crush it. Crush it. Crush it. Crush it. Crush it. Crush it.