COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS! TIMELINES ARE BULLSH*T! - 5 Ways to Leverage Your Dysfunction - 039

Social media, please don't miss this guy. Social media is just the highlight reel. It's just the highlight reel of an incomplete life online. That's it. Social media is the highlight reel. That's all. I've built many startups, most of them are failed. So Bitcoin is exactly the place that I like to be. We're gonna end it right there. Thank you, childhood. Thank you, my childhood, for fucking me up. Thank you, childhood, for fucking me up. I've got two young kids and we are now entering into the world of grades and grading. And this types of bullshit in schools. Now, I'm not gonna use broad swaths here as I criticize our educational system, but I'll tell you one thing that I absolutely despise about our educational system. It's that we create hierarchy. The educational systems of today create hierarchy in which it is natural to look at

one self in comparison to everyone else. Where are you on the ladder? Where are you? You're certainly not the valedictorian. You're certainly not the salutatorian. You are somewhere maybe if you're lucky, just in the middle. Our childhood and the educational system has pre-programmed us to be fucked up when it comes to comparison. This is one of the things I hate the most. This is one of the things I hate the most about social media. I just, I despise it. And the anxiety it gives me for the younger generation, not that I really care that much, but when I get to thinking about it, it really, it really hurts my heart to know that immature minds, immature minds on social media will compare themselves to others. We grow up. We grew up in a world in which comparison was not only natural, but it was programmed

and pushed and supported into our minds. It starts at a young age. It starts at a young age. It's a natural thing for us to compare with each other. We learn early as children. We learn early as young adults that other people live different lives. Other people drive different cars. They live in different houses, some bigger than others. Some dress nicer than others. Some dress worse than others. And this comparison idea, this natural inclination to compare ourselves to other people only intensifies as we grow into immature adults. The problem, the worst problem is this. This becomes some semblance of some neurosis or some psychological dysfunction in our brains because we continue as we get into adult life using this comparison thing, is that it turns into negative self-programming. And nowhere more clearly is this scene as a parent with a young child, young adolescent learning

about life and naturally coming up with comparison, verbiage. Stuff like, I'm not good enough. Quote, I can't do everything right or I can't do anything right or I can't do it like Sally. I can't do it like Susie. Mark is just better than me. I'll never make it like Jerry. I'll never be able to do it like Sam. The problem is, and this is the conversation that I have with my young kids, is every time they give me that bullshit, that negative programming, I say, you're right. I say you're 100% right. No matter what you think, no matter what you think you are 100% right, if you think you can't do it, guess what you're right. I'll tell you, if you think you can do it, you're also right. If you need more information on this, go back into my podcasts and search for what

I have with my young kids, is every time they give me that bullshit, that negative programming, I say, you're right. I say you're 100% right. No matter what you think, no matter what you think you are 100% right, if you think you can't do it, guess what you're right. I'll tell you, if you think you can do it, you're also right. If you need more information on this, go back into my podcasts and search for what you think about is what you become. What you think about is what you become. This is the whole idea of programming yourself to success, programming yourself to positivity, programming yourself to a better life. You see, I think that the younger generations are fucked. I truly believe this in so many ways and I'm talking about the masses here. I think that the younger generations are so fucked unless

they hear the words from people like me to tell them to stop comparing with other people, to stop looking at your life and measuring it by fucking social media. Social media, please don't miss this guy. Social media is just the highlight reel. It's just the highlight reel of an incomplete life online. That's it. Social media is the highlight reel. That's all. All these kids, all these kids that are jumping onto these new social platforms, your tweeters, your Instagrams, your Snapchat, your TikTok talk, holy shit. I don't even know what's going to be coming out in the future when it comes to social systems, but I'm telling you, when I downloaded TikTok for the first time, I knew that the younger immature minds, the younger immature generation, the younger immature children who act like adults on the social platform and their parents have given them access

to the social platform and phones at seven, eight, nine years old. The fuck is wrong with you? These children do not have the mental maturity to deal with the influx of what they see, the social signals, the social programming, the images that they see, they will never live up to the rock stars. They will never live up to the stars, the superstars, and all the people that have their lives quote unquote look like they're put together online. When I watch, when I browse these social platforms, it saddens me because all I see are the highlight reels of, in reality, relatively boring and nondescript lives just like mine. You see, my life isn't all that interesting, frankly, and if you go to any of my social pages, you only see the highlight reels, admitted, 100%, I admit it, I'm raising my hand, I admit it, when

you look at my social pages, it's just the highlight reels. It's just the stuff I want you to see. It's just the stuff that was really exciting to me. But in reality, my life is just as mundane, boring, wrote routine as anyone else's. It truly is. And if you follow me long enough, it's clear, I just fucking sit in my garage and pump out work, write code, and deliver content. That's what I do. But with these young minds, the worst part about this comparison, especially as we grow into adults, the comparison doesn't leave us. The worst part about comparison is that your mind falls into the trap of filling in all the gaps of the other individual. You don't know shit about that person. You end up creating timelines. That's the worst part. Timelines are bullshit. Timelines are complete bullshit. Complete bullshit. We look at

and deliver content. That's what I do. But with these young minds, the worst part about this comparison, especially as we grow into adults, the comparison doesn't leave us. The worst part about comparison is that your mind falls into the trap of filling in all the gaps of the other individual. You don't know shit about that person. You end up creating timelines. That's the worst part. Timelines are bullshit. Timelines are complete bullshit. Complete bullshit. We look at these other people's lives and we compare ourselves to them and we create these timelines. Where did they come from? These timelines like, oh, man, I need to be able to graduate by this time. I need to marry by. I need to have kids by this time. I need to get my first job promotion by this time because Jimmy did it. Sally did it. Arnold did it. I

need to be able to achieve X, Y, and Z by this time because Peter did it. John did it. I need to be able to have a dream event like buying a Lamborghini or buying my dream car, buying my dream house or moving it to my dream location. I need to have this event happen by. I need to have some sort of win by, some victory by. I need to be able to do X, Y, fuck that shit. Fuck that shit. Timelines are bullshit. You have time lines from your brain because you have no idea what it took, how long it really took to get there. This is one thing that is imminently curious to me whenever I look into an individual, a successful individual's life. One of the first things I do, and it's just natural for me because I want to understand kind

of inner workings at best, best I can, or at least as best as advertised by that individual, because I often look how long did it really take that person to succeed? I find it fascinating when people, especially trolls, will look at successful people and say, yeah, this guy was an overnight success. Overnight, my ass, yeah, you're right. He was an overnight success. He's just been working for 15 bloody years. And then suddenly he was an overnight success. Yeah, I can get that. I can get behind that. There are no overnight successes, guys. Comparing yourselves to other people, comparing yourselves to other people, especially within timelines is craziness. It's insanity. Fuck timelines. They're bullshit. And so I wrote some notes down. I wrote some notes down when it comes to comparison because I've been going through this with my children. I've been kind of seeing this

online. And it's just something that I wanted to talk about. I think it's germane to what's going on with the world today. And what I wrote down on the title here, I said, five ways to leverage comparison. Now, you might have never heard of this vantage point before, but I have to concede. And you'll have to excuse me here for a second as I think about it. But I have to concede the fact that comparison will never end. Comparison will never end. This is a natural occurrence in humanity. It's a natural occurrence when you grow up as a child and it will continue unabated until you are dead, until the day that you die. The only successful individuals, mature individuals, they leverage the comparison rather than let comparison stall them or let comparison immobilize them or let comparison get them down in the dumps and

But I have to concede the fact that comparison will never end. Comparison will never end. This is a natural occurrence in humanity. It's a natural occurrence when you grow up as a child and it will continue unabated until you are dead, until the day that you die. The only successful individuals, mature individuals, they leverage the comparison rather than let comparison stall them or let comparison immobilize them or let comparison get them down in the dumps and depressed. You see, I rarely compare with other people on a negative level. Actually, I probably say I almost never do it. I don't think of any time that ever look at someone else and say, damn, they did that. What's wrong with me? No, I never look at that. Because I'm a whole human. I'm a whole person. I am content with who I am. I know who I

am. I know my limitations. I know my strengths. And this self-knowledge is really important. You probably should go back and search for that in my other podcasts. So let's get into these five ways to leverage comparison to others. Number one I wrote down is comparison is the thief of joy. You've probably heard that before. Comparison is the thief of joy. They're only can come misery and pain by thinking about yourself in comparison and relation to others. It steals your joy in that moment if you're negative. If you look at them and say, wow, they have X and I, I don't got it and I can't do it. And I won't be able to, yeah, that's negative bullshit. Fuck that. Get energized is what I'm telling you. This whole idea of comparison is the thief of joy. Fuck that shit. Comparison is the insider of energy

from me. Work harder. Do better. Consider what they had to go through. What they had to overcome to get to where they are. You, we can all intellectually understand from a, even if you're young and you're listening to this, you can theoretically understand this. That nothing great ever just happens. Nothing great ever just happens. And frankly, nothing great ever happens from planning. Magnus is merely a culmination of days, weeks, months, years of hard work. Whenever you compare yourself to someone else, get energized. Consider what did they have to go through to overcome. What type of hard work did they need to do to get there? And maybe that's why they're so stinking fucking happy in that post that you got to see with 100,000 likes and 100 million thumbs up. Maybe that's why they're so happy because they have overcome the mountain. They have overcome

their weaknesses and they have gone through the fire of hard work to get there. Whenever you compare yourself to someone else, number one, get energized. Number two, you want to, one of the worst things about comparison. It takes up your fucking time. It takes up your time. And all your progress is what I'm trying to say. When you're comparing yourself to others, you're just wasting time. Let's be honest. Let's be honest. And I've been there too. I've been there too. Let's be honest. How much time have you wasted on your fucking mobile phone? Swiping up. Hmm? How much time have you wasted on your mobile phone? Swiping up. Watching stories. Watching other people in their success. Fuck social media. Fuck social apps. Stop wasting your time watching other people's highlights and do something. Do something with yours. Create your own highlights. Create your own memories.

be honest. Let's be honest. And I've been there too. I've been there too. Let's be honest. How much time have you wasted on your fucking mobile phone? Swiping up. Hmm? How much time have you wasted on your mobile phone? Swiping up. Watching stories. Watching other people in their success. Fuck social media. Fuck social apps. Stop wasting your time watching other people's highlights and do something. Do something with yours. Create your own highlights. Create your own memories. Stop watching others. Unfollow people. Leave the conversation. Leave the group. Leave the chat. Leave the social whatever. Leave it. I can't tell you how many times when I have gone through house cleaning in my social media life. Every time that I go through house cleaning and I unfollow people and I leave groups and I leave social networks, people get so salty. It's almost as if they want

me to continue to watch them so that I do nothing in my life. Does that make sense? It's almost as if they want me to be part of the fakery that they're faking out on their social media too because remember where everyone on social media is just showing each other highlights of an otherwise mundane and boring life. Throw that shit away. Unfollow people. Stop stalling your own progress by spending hours swiping up. I see kids and it crushes me. Maybe this is just because I'm getting old and ornary but sometimes when I will watch kids just head down literally inches from the fking phone swiping up, swiping up, double tapping for a heart or double tapping for a life swiping. I just want to grip that phone out of their hands and smash it on the ground. What is wrong with you? Why is this

important? The worst part is when I see adults, fuck. Sometimes I'm in the gym guys. Sometimes I'm in the gym and I see guys working their thumbs more than they're working out any other body part. They're just working out their thumbs. A gym is an excuse for them to swipe up and double tap with their thumbs. Number three, five ways to leverage comparison to others. Number three is guess what, guys? When you compare yourself to others, you just need to remember that you are physically different from them. Period. End of story. You can't change your ugly ass nose. You can't change your terrible hairline or your male pattern baldness. You can't change the fact that one leg is just slightly longer than the others which by the way. I think most people have that issue anyway. You can't change your physical appearance. You can't change

anything about you. This is a good thing. Whenever you compare yourself to someone else, you should just look at them and say, wow, they don't look like me. See, that is enough of a difference for me to realize that that's their life. And mine is my own. There's a great Greek philosopher. You guys know how I love philosophers. His name is Xeno. He said this quote, man conquers the world by conquering himself. Let me repeat that from Xeno, great Greek philosopher. And men conquers the world by conquering himself. You as you. It's you versus you. This is a good thing. You know why? Because you have unique talents. You have unique skills. You have unique opportunities that no one else in the world has. And no one in the world will ever get. You're the only one. Think about this. Special this is. You are

conquers the world by conquering himself. Let me repeat that from Xeno, great Greek philosopher. And men conquers the world by conquering himself. You as you. It's you versus you. This is a good thing. You know why? Because you have unique talents. You have unique skills. You have unique opportunities that no one else in the world has. And no one in the world will ever get. You're the only one. Think about this. Special this is. You are the fucking special. Think about this. You have unique skills. You have unique talents. And you're the only one in the world who will ever be given the opportunities that you're going to get. And you might say, well, other people, no, no, no, no, no. No one will ever have the opportunities presented to them the way that you have those opportunities presented to you. I hope that you're

prepared for those opportunities when they come. I hope that you've lived a life of diligence, a life of hard work, a life of discipline, so that when the opportunity comes, you're not sitting there with your thumb, swiping up, comparing yourself to others. You've said, I have, I am, I can compare. I can conquer the world because I've first conquered myself. The last note I want to put on this one when it comes to your unique talent, your unique skills. Guess what? You have a unique time on this earth. That's it. A unique time. Why are you going to spend time comparing yourself to others when your time is tick, tick, tick, tick, and away. And you ain't getting no younger brother. Number four on the five ways to leverage comparison to others, you just have to realize when you're comparing and looking at other people

that there is no perfect life. Ain't nobody got no perfect life. Remember the social media is the highlight reel. And you don't know shit about the other person. You don't know shit about the other person. No one is exempt. No one is exempt from pain and suffering in this world, in this life. You don't think they haven't gone through pain and suffering in order for them to achieve that which they're showing you in their highlight reel. You don't think they have burned and earned the right to smile through gritted teeth in that picture because they know and only they know. No one wants whatever know. But only they will know what sacrifices had to be made in order for this to happen. And I'll tell you brother, I'll tell you sister, I guarantee you that if you were to sit down with these successful people

that they would tell you sob stories of what they sacrificed. I'm telling you every time that you talk deeply with a world champion in anything, they will sit down with you and say I had to lay this at the altar of sacrifice. I had to lay my family on the altar. I had to lay my father, my mother, I had to betray my brother to do this. I had to betray my sister. I had to lose all my friends. I had to go broke to do this. I had to lose everything so that I could be here. You don't know shit about what they went through to get there. And guess what? No one else will ever understand what you will have to go through to get to the goals that you want to achieve. No one can exempt from pain and suffering and most

I had to betray my sister. I had to lose all my friends. I had to go broke to do this. I had to lose everything so that I could be here. You don't know shit about what they went through to get there. And guess what? No one else will ever understand what you will have to go through to get to the goals that you want to achieve. No one can exempt from pain and suffering and most of all the ones that you see online are frankly just better at keeping their own shit together at least on the outside. I find it fascinating. I find it actually depressingly ironic. It's like a travesty, it's part of the travesty of life. When the world is ignoring you and the world is turning away from you and the haters are hating on you and your life is crumbling

but you're holding it all together. I salute you. I salute you warrior. I salute you sister. I salute you brother. And the world is crumbling around you and the world is dying. The world that you know is crumbling around you. You're lost your job. Your sister's sick. Your wife is pissed and wants to divorce. Finances are shit. The world's crumbling around you and you are holding your shit together. I salute you because that is what life is about. Fuck comparison. You don't know shit about what's going on. All you see is the outside. No one's immune. No one will get away from it. Number five, there's always someone better than you. You just have to remember whenever you're comparing yourself to anyone else, there's always going to be someone better than them at what they're doing and there's always going to be someone better than

you at what you're doing. The goal isn't to be the best in the world. That's never going to happen. The goal is to be the best version of you now and the best version of you in the future. The best version of you at all times. Fuck the world. Fuck comparison. Fuck social media. You know what? I've had people in my past tell me that they've deleted social media and to this day I believe they still are not reengaged and these people are ridiculously successful. They don't care about what anybody thinks. You should probably go back to my podcast on that too. The five reasons why you should never give a fuck about what other people think. Stop comparing yourself to others. This is something that school won't teach you. School teaches you to compare. It is intrinsic to that very system, that dysfunctional system.

Let me ask you guys this as we're rolling out. What are you going to do the next time you feel compelled to compare? This is Peter, the Bitcoin Landmau. If you appreciated this episode, feel free to share it with someone in your network, subscribe and smash the like button. Hope you guys have a great day. Stop comparing yourself and you know what? Delete. At least one on social app today. social app today.